A True Definition of Self-Love

January 11, 2017

The concept of loving oneself is a difficult one for many to follow. People are afraid they are being arrogant if they love themselves, or they see so many imperfections that they find it impossible. I believe every person has felt this way at some point. Unfortunately many still feel this way today.

Besides the Biblical definitions of love, the best I’ve seen is from Eckhart Tolle in his book “The Power of Now”. In the book, he simply defines love as seeing God in everyone and everything. I have never found a more simple definition of the word. God’s spirit is within us all. So when you love yourself, you are simply seeing or acknowledging God’s presence in you. When you love someone else, you are seeing and acknowledging His presence in them. Even if you love a thing, like pizza for example, God is responsible for that too!

We are all imperfect people. Yet Luke 17:21 in the Amplified version says the Kingdom of God is within you and surrounding you. It’s there whether you see it or not. However, if you do see, feel, and acknowledge it in you, you are loving yourself!

The Bible also says to love your neighbor as yourself. That’s another thing people often have a hard time doing. However, when you see love this way, it is easy. If God is in and around you, he is also in and around your neighbor. When you acknowledge this and see God’s presence in other people (the same presence that is in you), it is much easier to see beyond their imperfections and indeed love them.

Please know it is not selfish to love yourself. In fact, it is selfish if you don’t. The more you see and experience God’s presence in yourself, the more you will see it in others, and the easier it will be to love them. I challenge you to see God’s love, peace, and power in you today. That is true love. And remember, when you seek Him first, all other good things follow. Because of God’s presence in you, you are beautiful, amazing, and any other good thing you can think of. Don’t you love it?

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An Alternate Definition of Love…And How to Demonstrate It

February 23, 2015

I was reminded in church today (as I am many times I read the Bible) the importance of loving God with my whole heart, mind, and soul, and loving my neighbor as myself. OK, raise your hand if you consider yourself excellent and totally proficient at demonstrating this kind of love. If you honestly raised your hand, then please know I have a great admiration for you.

I am betting that most of you did not raise your hand. My hand is definitely not up. Speaking for myself, I honestly love people and do my best to demonstrate love. However, I often get caught up in my own world and my own goals and desires. Many times I don’t demonstrate the love to myself and others like I should. My motives and intentions towards others are generally good, but I’d be lying if I said it was like that on an all the time basis.

You are probably familiar with the Love chapter in 1 Corinthians 13. It provides an excellent list of what love really is. However, I recently discovered an alternate definition that really caught my attention. I read it in Eckhart Tolle’s book, “The Power of Now”. It struck me because it is not only powerful, but very easy to do. If you are one who is looking to be more loving to yourself and enhance your relationship with others, I recommend this advice to you.

I am made more aware every day that God is a part of everyone. He lives inside of me and you. According to what I read, love is simply appreciating the part of God in everyone. It makes sense. When you love yourself (as you are supposed to) you are simply loving the best part of you, which is God who lives in you. In order to love others, you simply need to appreciate the God part of them. Since God is part of all of us, we are all connected. When you appreciate the God part of someone else, you are in essence appreciating the God part of you since it’s all the same. Hence, you are loving others as you love yourself.

When you wholeheartedly appreciate the Godly spirit in another person you are demonstrating love. Yes, we do other things to demonstrate love, such as service, acts of kindness, gifts, etc. Those are actions we take to show love. However, the key is to focus on the Godly aspects of that person. I understand that every person has flaws (this author has many). It’s amazing how, when we focus on the Godly aspects, we avoid focusing on those flaws.

It is amazing how powerful this is. I notice that when I focus on the God part of myself and everyone else, I feel a great peace, and my relationships with other people flow positively and naturally. I believe you will experience this as well if you simply focus on the Godly part of yourself and those around you. You will “love” what happens. Enjoy the blessings 🙂


The Number One Way to Gain More Respect From Others

December 16, 2014

One of the greatest feelings in the world is when you feel respected from other people. The feeling is the opposite when you don’t feel respected. Many want to know…is there a way I can gain more respect from my family, friends, co-workers, and even strangers?

There is definitely an affirmative answer to this question. Two in fact. One way is to be respectful to others. It’s like anything else. The more you give of something, the more you get back. It’s those that show the greatest respect towards other people that get it multiplied back to them.

I am realizing that, in addition to the reason above, there is an even greater way to earn the utmost respect. It is very simple, yet many of us don’t do it. If you feel like you are lacking respect, the solution is to…..RESPECT YOURSELF. It may seem overly simple, but the more you respect yourself the more you open yourself up to receive this respect from other people.

Here’s a bit of a scientific explanation of why this is. The spirit of God dwells in each of us. In fact, it is the essence of our being. And since this spirit is a part of all us, and we are connected to God that way, we are ultimately all connected to each other. When you disrespect yourself, you are ultimately disrespecting the part of God that is you. Since we are all connected by this spirit of God, what you do to one part affects the whole part. That’s why when you think negatively towards yourself, you are ultimately disrespecting everyone you are connected with (as in everyone who exists). This is also why when you act or even think negatively towards someone else, it comes back to you. It’s because if you negatively impact one part of the connection, you ultimately effect the whole which you are a part of.

I am still learning this whole concept, so hopefully my futile explanation hasn’t confused you. If it has, I’ll make it simple. Respect yourself. You don’t have to be perfect, and you are no better than anyone else, but it’s a very simple formula. The more you have a healthy respect for yourself, the more you will see it returned from other people.

As always, I invite you to share your point of view. I definitely respect your opinion 🙂


How Self-Love Increases “Others” Love

September 25, 2014

I read a very interesting point today that I wanted to share with you today. I’ve shared similar information before, but this is the most simple way I’ve seen this concept explained.

The quote is taken from Anita Moorjani in her book “Dying to Be Me”. She talks about how loving yourself actually helps increase your love for others. Here’s a great explanation why… “because of our connectedness, if I love myself then I automatically love you”.

I love what this is saying and how simple it is. We are all infused with Godly energy. The spirit of God is within us all, thus connecting us all on a spiritual level. When I am loving myself, I am enhancing that connection on the whole level. Since you and I are connected with that same spirit, I am not only increasing my love for myself, but also for you at the same time.

This is further proof that we don’t have to go out of our way to love others. Yes, we can demonstrate that love by serving other people and showing our appreciation for them. However, if you really want to be love towards others, it starts with you..as in fully loving and appreciating who YOU are. For me, it makes this love concept much easier. I hope it does for you too. Enjoy the blessings 🙂


I Am Already….

July 8, 2014

We all want to accomplish goals and rapidly manifest our desires, true? I have a long list of these, as well as a list of qualities and characteristics I want to become as a person. If only I could  be that person now.

Please allow me to share a fact that was drilled into my head three times in a 12 hour period yesterday from three different sources (that’s when I know for sure God is speaking loudly to me)….I AM ALREADY THAT PERSON.

I will share the same news with you…YOU ARE ALREADY THE PERSON YOU WANT TO BE. I will add that you already have everything you want to have. Now, I can already hear some of the responses. Really? I don’t see it. I don’t feel it. You must be crazy.

If I were you I might think that too. Until recently anyway. I am learning more and more that we are and we have everything because the spirit of God is within us. And since God is everything good, we are a part of that. What we have or don’t have in our lives is simply the measure of how much we believe this concept.

All three people I read and listened to yesterday had this same message that I take from Neville Goddard and his book “The Power of Awareness” “All is yours. Do not go seeking for that which you are. Appropriate it, claim it, assume it. Everything depends upon your concept of yourself. That which you do not claim as true of yourself cannot be realized by you”.

The message I’m receiving loud and clear is that, instead of striving to become what I want to be and accomplish what I want to accomplish, it is more important to be thankful and cherish the fact that I already am that which I want to be and have. Another quote from the same chapter of the book above says… “Be still and know that you are that which you desire to be, and you will never have to search for it”. The more you can focus on the fact that, due to God’s spirit and presence in you, all you desire to be and have is already a part of you. The more you focus on this fact, the more it becomes reality.

Please understand I am not advising that we give up acting towards our goals. The last thing we can do is think, believe, then sit back and watch thing happen. When we focus on the fact that we already are and already have, it seems that ideas for action come much more readily. Then its just a matter of acting on those ideas. Also, instead of taking desperate action in hopes that we maybe get what we strive for, we are taking confident steps knowing that the action we are taking is only enhancing the greatness that we already are.

This is not a new concept for me. However, it is a different take that seems to simplify it and make it more real for me, especially since I know for a fact God shot this directly in my direction. This may or may not be a new concept for you. Either way, I ask you to consider it. Reflect on the fact that God loves you beyond measure, and is part of your very being. As a result, He shares His knowledge, power, and all positive attributes with you. Go through your day with the assurance that you already are and already have what you are seeking. Say I am already…and fill in the blank with what you desire. Feel the joy of knowing this, share it with others, and do what you can do to maximize this love, power, and light in your life, spending as much time being thankful for all that you are and for what God has given you. You will see immediate blessings as a result. Enjoy 🙂


Whose Desire Is It Anyway?

June 23, 2014

We all have desires and goals that we want to see realized. We do what we know how to do to make it happen, and we pray hoping that our prayer will be answered, wondering if we will see our dream come true.

I am realizing more each day that the last part is a mistake. No, not praying. That’s the best way to realize your wish. It’s the other part, hoping and wondering that it will be answered.

I realize we need to follow God’s will and not our own. I also realize that God will sometimes say no to our prayers because He has something better for us. I’ve seen this in my own life many times which is why, as frustrating as it can be to wait sometimes, I welcome God’s alternatives in my life.

They key I’ve learned in my study over the past few years is this…when I have a desire in my life that is within God’s biblical guidelines, HE IS THE ONE THAT PUT IT THERE!! I am realizing more and more that God is prompting me with these desires because He wants to use them for His glory in my life. It is the spiritual part of me trying to express itself through this individual.

For example, my dream is to have the freedom of working my own schedule, and making hundreds of thousands of dollars by impacting thousands of people a day. There is no part of this that is outside of God’s guidelines. He doesn’t want me working crazy hours being away from friends and family like I sometimes am now. He wants me to enjoy abundance and freedom with my finances, and craves the opportunity to use this human creation to bring Him glory. I know it is Him that has influenced me with this desire.

So what do I do now? Get out of the way and allow it to happen. Since the desire is from God, I know He wants it to be realized as much as I do. So I do my part by remaining in prayer and paying attention for opportunities I can act on. The rest is up to Him to make it happen. It’s as simple as that.

Are you in the same situation today? Do you have this burning desire for changes and great things in your life? I recommend you focus on them and realize that they are coming from God. Also realize that He wants them to take place as much as you do, and if you let Him, He will make it happen. It’s up to you to pray and seek opportunities to act. Then just let Him do His will through you and let the miracles take place.

You can stop your dreams and desires from being realized. You can do this by thinking negatively, doubting, or trying to do everything on your own. However, you cannot stop God from realizing His desires. And when you make your desires His (which they are already anyway), and let Him do His glorious work, it’s only a matter of time before those intentions come true.

So what’s your wish? Pray and make it known to God, thank Him for giving it to you, and let Him make it happen. Enjoy the blessings 🙂


How to Find the Balance Between Being and Doing

May 5, 2014

I don’t know about you, but I often struggle to find the balance between being and allowing God to do His work, and doing and taking action.

One side says to avoid striving and spending too much of my own effort trying to reach my goals. They say it’s a matter of letting go and letting God, and relying on His wonder working power. The other side says to take massive action, and that our goals won’t be accomplished if we don’t make the necessary blood, sweat, and tears effort.

So what’s one to do? As mentioned, I’ve always been confused by this question. Recently, I found a very helpful bit of advice that significantly clarified this concept. I share this now with you, especially if you have had the same struggle.

The advice comes from a book I read from Anita Moorjani called, “Dying to Be Me”. If you’re not familiar, it’s the author’s story about her near death experience after battling with cancer. After returning from the experience, she was healed within a few days of the cancer that almost killed her. She learned many new ideas during this experience which she shares in the book. I disagree with some of the philosophies, but it’s an interesting read nontheless.

One of the key ideas I’ve taken from the book is this concept of being and allowing, and the contrast with taking action. She discovered that being (as in being our best Godly and spirit-filled self) trumps doing every time. But we have to do things and not just sit around and wait for things to happen, right? Here’s the key idea that has really helped….if we are doing something out of obligation, duty, or fear, we are DOING. If we do something out of love, passion, and joy, it’s BEING.

The key is this. We still need to do our part. We also still have to sometimes do things we don’t want to do. The key is to do it in love, and with the heart to do it as well as we possibly can. For example, my lawn needed to be mowed yesterday. There are plenty of things I would rather do than mow the lawn. However, instead of doing it as a chore and something I needed to do, I instead did it with the attitude that my wife would appreciate coming home and seeing a beautifully landscaped front yard when she arrived home. I enjoyed being outside in the beautiful sunny weather and cherished the fact that significant calories were being burned.

Can you see the difference? The way I did a mundane chore yesterday was in a state of being. I did it out of love and appreciation, which even made the experience joyful. It’s the same with your goals in life. If you do things because you feel like you have to or in fear that you won’t reach the goal if you don’t, you are doing outside of the state of being and allowing God to intervene. When you do things lovingly and joyfully on the other hand, you are still doing your part and allowing God to intervene and take care of His. That can only be a win-win situation.

I challenge you today to remain in a state of being your absolute best, and letting God’s light shine through you. Stay active towards your goals and desires. However, instead of striving to achieve them, cherish the journey and the small steps getting your there by acting in love, joy, and gratitude. Next thing you know, those baby steps will have you flying. Enjoy the blessings 🙂