What is Love, Anyway?

February 13, 2021

OK, I will start by apologizing if any of you now can’t stop singing the 80s song with the above title. That’s been the case for me ever since I thought of the title for this article 🙂 Anyway, as we approach Valentines Day, I thought this would be an appropriate topic to discuss.

Every Valentines Day, we hear plenty about the topic of love. But what is love, really? We hear that God is love. If you read the Bible, you will find plenty of definitions of what love is. However, the definition of love I will share here may not be one of the exact definitions you will find in the Bible, but instead is the most helpful definition for me.

The most relevant and helpful definition of love I have ever found is one that comes from Eckhart Tolle in his classic book, “The Power of Now.” It’s an incredible book that I highly recommend. Honestly, it’s not the easiest book to read, and I’ve had to go through it a few times. However, it is well worth it. At one point in the book, he describes love as simply seeing God in someone or something. When you think about this definition, it makes total sense. The spirit of God is within you. It is within everyone. When you “love” someone, in essence, you are acknowledging and appreciate that fact. When you say “I love you” you are in essence saying, “I see and appreciate the spirit of God in you.” This has really helped me with self-love. Throughout most of my life, I have struggled to love myself. I have learned to appreciate who I am, but when I think of myself as someone created in the image of God, and someone who is a temple of God’s spirit, I am practicing the healthiest form of self-love!

Since I’ve began seeing love in this way, I notice an interesting thing that happens. The level of love in my life increases! That’s because when you focus on something mentally, you see more of it in the physical world. When I see myself and others as the loving energy of God, I experience more of it. This type of focus also enables you to have greater impacts on those around you. One reason for that is that you are increasing the “love energy” in your world. The Bible says God is love. And God is the limitless energy in and around everyone. When you see others as shining lights of God’s love, you impact that energy in a positive way, and that positive energy spreads further and further. Watch how simple this is…. you can impact countless people (and yourself since you are part of this great energy too) simply by controlling your thoughts and focusing on the spirit of God that lives in everyone and seeing them as being created in His image. That’s it! Now, I know there are actions we need to take to demonstrate love. However, when you are in this state of mind, the ideas for those actions seem to come automatically. Then people are really impacted by your attitude of love.

You may think I’m getting a bit technical here, but I believe it is very simple. For me, when I define love as seeing God in myself and others, the positive energy in and around me dramatically increases. Not only does it add to my joy, but it adds love, joy, peace, and all other positive emotions to those around me. The same is true for you. I challenge you to see others as the love of God and as beings in His image. I am confident that your attitude about them will be more positive, and it will come back at you in a major positive way as well. I believe that’s a life we can all love. Happy Valentines Day!