The Biggest Mistake Goal-Setters Make

January 5, 2015

At the time I am writing this article, we are still only days into a new year. Optimism reigns as people make New Years resolutions and set new goals for the coming year, hoping to make positive changes in their lives.

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This may be something you do on a regular basis, or perhaps it’s your first attempt at major goal-setting. Perhaps you are reading this in the middle of the year as you set some type of goal. Regardless, I believe the information presented here can help you as it has me.

There is a major problem in setting goals. I’ve been guilty of it, and many other people haven’t reached their goals because of it. It stems from the last line in paragraph 1. The problem is hoping to make changes. How often have you done it? You set a goal, and instead of pursuing it with confidence, you hope and wonder if it’s something that will ever be realized, and end up procrastinating and avoiding the action you need to get there.

At this point you may ask how do you get around the doubts and take focused action instead simply hoping to accomplish the goal? One of the best bits of advice I’ve ever heard is one I picked up from listening to an Anthony Robbins audio. His advice was to simply make the goal a must. In other words, no maybes. No hoping. You need to have an attitude that you will do whatever it takes to make this goal happen, along with the faith of knowing that it can and will happen.

In her book “You Are a Badass”, Jen Sincero provides similar advice. She says to place your full focus on the goal, decide with unwavering faith that it will happen, and do all you know how to do, regardless of how much or how little it is.

If you are not one for advice from modern authors, how about one from the Bible? The apostle James says that when you ask God for wisdom (or anything else) you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea blown and tossed by the wind. That person should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. Such a person is double-minded and unstable in all they do.

I don’t know about you, but I want positive responses from my Lord. I want the benefits of His power, not His rejection because I don’t have the faith that my goal can be accomplished. How do you receive that Godly backing and a rapid manifestation of your desire? Follow the advice of these authors. Go all in. Don’t think for a second that there’s a way out. Make it a must, a no way around it, a definite accomplishment that WILL happen, not one that might happen.

I know from personal experience that when I approach goals like this, they become my reality. The key is to have this mentality for all of your goals, no matter how big or small they are. As you set your expectations (I prefer this term over resolutions) be sure to avoid the mistake of placing maybes over them. Instead, develop the mindset that there is no option of these goals failing to materialize. Be single-minded, full of the faith and willingness to act to make it come true. That combination can only make it happen. Please share your success stories when they do. Enjoy the blessings 🙂

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2014 New Years Expectations

January 2, 2014

I now present part two of my personal blogs about where I’ve been in 2013 and what I wish to see for 2014. I refuse to call this a list of resolutions. I have learned that resolutions are goals that you hope to achieve (and many times don’t). Instead, I will call them expectations. I have learned that when you expect to accomplish something you generally do.

I counted on this being an easy list to create. After all, I enjoy making and striving for goals, and I have a good idea what I want to accomplish. However, as I looked at my past years lists, I realize that the goals I set were quite general. Things like avoid procrastination, see the best in everything, etc. Great goals yes, but difficult to pinpoint. This year I wanted to make more specific, measureable goals. This made the list a bit more difficult.

One more thing before I share my list…I read a great book recently by Russ Harris called, “The Confidence Gap”. One of the main themes is to live by your values. I have taken his advice and determined my core values, and I use these as a guide to set and accomplish these goals. Some of these goals may seem simple, but in past years I set some extra lofty goals that I didn’t achieve, and wanted to make some more reasonable.  So for anyone interested in viewing one human being’s goals and expectations for 2014, here you go…

  1. 30 minutes a day of personal growth. I have grown in leaps and bounds over the past few years, and I am closer to God than ever. One goal this year is not only to continue that momentum, but apply what I’ve learned to empower my life and the lives of those around me.
  2. Exercise at least 1 hour a week. You may think one hour a week is nothing, and many of you probably do that in a day. However, as healthy as I am, I still often don’t do the physical exercise I need to do. To break this down to 4 15 minute blocks a week will not only inspire me to reach this goal, but probably go beyond it.
  3. Encourage many people each day. This goals seems like my previous general ones. However, I set up a plan to actually track the number of people I go out of my way to serve and encourage. I will use these notes to set further goals.
  4. Be the family leader I was created to be. My marriage is not the best, and I feel much of that rests on my shoulders. I have very good relationships with my three daughters, but I don’t feel like I focused as their well-being as much as I should have. As noted above, I will actually track my interactions with them to hold myself accountable in being the father and husband according to God’s words that I can be.
  5. Double my income. I’ve tried this one several times and came up short every time. I am trying some new strategies, one of which is knowing instead of hoping that this goal will be realized well before the end of 2014.

There you have some thoughts behind the head of this writer. Once again, I thank you immensely for reading if you’re still here at this point of the article. Every once in a while I like to share some personal thoughts like this to provide a basis for the rest of the information I provide here during the year.

I encourage you to share any of your goals, or whether we have some in common. I hope that for every one of you, 2014 is one of your best years ever. Enjoy the blessings : )