A True Definition of Self-Love

January 11, 2017

The concept of loving oneself is a difficult one for many to follow. People are afraid they are being arrogant if they love themselves, or they see so many imperfections that they find it impossible. I believe every person has felt this way at some point. Unfortunately many still feel this way today.

Besides the Biblical definitions of love, the best I’ve seen is from Eckhart Tolle in his book “The Power of Now”. In the book, he simply defines love as seeing God in everyone and everything. I have never found a more simple definition of the word. God’s spirit is within us all. So when you love yourself, you are simply seeing or acknowledging God’s presence in you. When you love someone else, you are seeing and acknowledging His presence in them. Even if you love a thing, like pizza for example, God is responsible for that too!

We are all imperfect people. Yet Luke 17:21 in the Amplified version says the Kingdom of God is within you and surrounding you. It’s there whether you see it or not. However, if you do see, feel, and acknowledge it in you, you are loving yourself!

The Bible also says to love your neighbor as yourself. That’s another thing people often have a hard time doing. However, when you see love this way, it is easy. If God is in and around you, he is also in and around your neighbor. When you acknowledge this and see God’s presence in other people (the same presence that is in you), it is much easier to see beyond their imperfections and indeed love them.

Please know it is not selfish to love yourself. In fact, it is selfish if you don’t. The more you see and experience God’s presence in yourself, the more you will see it in others, and the easier it will be to love them. I challenge you to see God’s love, peace, and power in you today. That is true love. And remember, when you seek Him first, all other good things follow. Because of God’s presence in you, you are beautiful, amazing, and any other good thing you can think of. Don’t you love it?

How Self-Love Increases “Others” Love

September 25, 2014

I read a very interesting point today that I wanted to share with you today. I’ve shared similar information before, but this is the most simple way I’ve seen this concept explained.

The quote is taken from Anita Moorjani in her book “Dying to Be Me”. She talks about how loving yourself actually helps increase your love for others. Here’s a great explanation why… “because of our connectedness, if I love myself then I automatically love you”.

I love what this is saying and how simple it is. We are all infused with Godly energy. The spirit of God is within us all, thus connecting us all on a spiritual level. When I am loving myself, I am enhancing that connection on the whole level. Since you and I are connected with that same spirit, I am not only increasing my love for myself, but also for you at the same time.

This is further proof that we don’t have to go out of our way to love others. Yes, we can demonstrate that love by serving other people and showing our appreciation for them. However, if you really want to be love towards others, it starts with you..as in fully loving and appreciating who YOU are. For me, it makes this love concept much easier. I hope it does for you too. Enjoy the blessings 🙂

3 Words to Promote Self-Love

March 10, 2014

Today I would like to discuss the often misunderstood topic of self-love. It can often bring up negative emotions on both sides. For example, people can think of those who love themselves too much, or other people (especially themselves) who don’t love themselves enough.

I will start by saying this. Self-love is entirely healthy. I will add that it is entirely essential. I was recently reminded of one of the funniest movies I’ve ever seen. It’s called “Planes, Trains, and Automobiles”. If you’re unfamiliar, the basic plot is that Steve Martin plays a snobby, upper class marketing associate He experiences some difficulty and delays in his travels to return home from a business trip in time for Thanksgiving. Throughout his travels, he encounters John Candy, a loveable, friendly, but overbearing slob who just won’t seem to go away.

There is a scene in the movie where Steve Martin has had enough of the delays and the person he is stuck with. He verbally lashes and insults John Candy. Instead of lashing back, Candy, though hurt by the insults, says something like this…you may not like being stuck with me and you may think you’re above me. But you know what? I like me. My wife likes me. My customers like me.

Those words always stood out, as many times as I’ve seen this movie, and now years later. According to society, this individual may not be the desirable,wealthy high class person and standard so many of us are held to. However, he has something many people don’t. An honest comfort with being himself and loving the person that he is. He knows he’s not perfect. He knows he doesn’t have a lot. In fact, as the movie goes on we find out he has even less than he leads us to believe. However, he appreciates the person that he is, and he appreciates other people.

I challenge you my cherished reader to follow this lead, especially if you’ve been doubting yourself lately. You already know you’re not perfect. But do you know you are created by a perfect God who is very proud of His wonderful creation? I seriously challenge you to think about all of the positives about you today, and all the reasons you are lovable and valuable to others. I am sure you don’t have to think very much to think of at least a few high qualities you have to offer.

I also challenge you to reflect on the unlimited and unconditional love God has for you. No matter how imperfect you are and no matter how many mistakes you’ve made, you are loved beyond comprehension by your Creator. Cherish that and live with this assurance.

Here’s the best part. When you love and appreciate yourself to the fullest, it overflows to others. It is so much easier to love and positively impact others when your own love bucket is overflowing. I challenge you to love and appreciate yourself. Affirm throughout the day…”I like me”. In fact, step it up a notch and say, “I love me”. I find that when I affirm this, my mind provides reasons for me to naturally (not arrogantly) love myself. When I focus on these qualities, it increases my positive attitude and outlook, personal magnetism, and ability to make great impacts on those around me. I am convinced that it will do the same for you. Go ahead, it’s OK. Love yourself to the fullest and make a difference. Enjoy the blessings 🙂

A Connection To An Old Commercial

July 16, 2013

I don’t know about you, but for some reason I have a fascination with TV commercials. I enjoy watching some of them today, and have fond memories of commercials of the past.

As I was doing some reading the other day, an old commercial was brought to mind. It’s an AT&T commercial from a while back where the theme is that “we’re all connected”. Makes sense for a phone company, right?

It brings me to the theme of my message for today. It’s about…you guessed it…connection. Don’t get me wrong, I like the theme of the commercial. Their phone service certainly makes it possible to connect with people and places. However,  that’s not exactly what I want to talk about today.

I would like to remind you that you are already connected to everybody and everything. How? It’s simply your Creator. Think about it. The spirit of God is a part of you. This same spirit is a part of everyone else. We are all part of it, meaning we are all connected in that way. A good visual of this is provided at our Christmas Eve church service each year. There is a giant candle at the front of the church. Each individual has their own candle that they light from that big one. As a result, each one of shines our individual light brightly, but the source of the light is from the “original”

It’s the same for you and me. We each have that spiritual light shining through us that comes from the same source. Do you ever wonder one of the reasons we are supposed to love our neighbor as ourselves? In essence, when you love and respect someone else, you are loving and respecting part of yourself!

The same is true for the material things and situations we are seeking. The same God that created you also created the money, house, job, car, talent, or whatever it is you are seeking. Your goals and desires are already a part of you because it originates from the same energy you are made of.

How can this information help you? When you know you are separate from no one and nothing and you focus on the fact that you are one with the people and things around you, it doesn’t seem so far away or unattainable, does it? For example, let’s say you are seeking more money. You and money are created by the same Creator. You both have the same energy. You are connected. All you have to do is believe it, and you begin the process of manifesting it to you. You will then be inspired with the action to take to allow it to manifest in reality.

When you realize this concept of connection, your relationships with others flow much more smoothly. Once again, when you love and respect other people, you are doing it to yourself because you are made of the same spiritual essence. I believe that’s one of the reasons your relationships suffer when you don’t love yourself. It’s because you are not respecting the same spirit that is also a part of everyone else.

I know that I feel a greater love and respect for those around me when I focus on this idea of connection. I also have a greater faith in my circumstances because I know that I am not separate from them. It’s already part of me, and it’s just  a matter of manifesting the goal.

I know the same will be true for you too. Focus on this idea that you are connected to everyone and everything. It will really make a difference in you life. I can attest to it. If you will excuse me, my phone is ringing. Remember, we are all connected. Have a wonderful day : )