I read a quote yesterday that I’ve read hundreds of times. I’ve also believed these words, but for some reason when I saw the quote again this time, it impacted me more than it ever has. The quote is from one of my favorite authors, Wayne Dyer. It says, “change the way you see things, and the things you see will change.”
As I said, I’ve always believed this. One book where I first read this idea discuss a situation where a woman loved her job but began to truly hate her boss. It detracted her passion so much that she came close to quitting this dream job. She then learned this concept and began practicing it. The result was that her strong distaste for her boss disappeared quickly. In addition, the boss’s attitude towards her became different. The boss seemed to treat her much more fairly, even asking for her input and knowledge on important projects. A simple change of attitude towards this boss changed the whole atmosphere at the job, and her love for her work there returned.
I have also experienced this truth on many occasions. Whether it’s people or things, changing the way I’ve looked at situations has dramatically changed them. I can relate to the job story. I am proud to be a middle school teacher. However, there have been times where my passion has been lost. I work in an environment that can become very negative. Many of my students are low-income city kids that don’t exactly take education seriously. It is easy to get sucked into the negativity and look at my job as a burden. It is easy to think negatively of difficult students who I sometimes feel are learning nothing of what I am teaching them. However, I have learned that as soon as I shift my thinking, the circumstances dramatically change. When I think about how lucky I am to be in the position I’m in that can positively impact lives in a major way, those impacts start happening. When I think positively about my students, they don’t instantly become educational geniuses. However, they do seem to respond much better to what I have to say. This all changes my emotional state for the better.
This concept is true in other areas of life. My wife and I are as different as night and day, and this causes much friction in our marriage. There have been plenty of times where I did not guard my mind and I allowed negative thoughts about her to dominate my mind, or even fearful thoughts that something I said or did would cause a negative reaction in her. This only makes things worse. When I catch myself and change my thinking, things become much more peaceful. Instead of thinking negatively about her, I become thankful that God put the ideal wife and mother of my kids in my life. I pray for her asking for God’s greatness in her life. When I change the way I think about her, it’s amazing how there is so much less tension, even if a negative situation comes up. She is much softer to me, I am much more at ease, and the overall environment in the home is amazingly positive. We have also had difficult financial situations that have been changed by changing our thinking. I went from thinking about the difficulty to being thankful for the money we had, even if it wasn’t quite enough at the time. I changed the way I looked at our situation, trusted in God, and the situation improved sooner rather than later. It didn’t put a million dollars in our account, but somehow the necessary funds showed up, and we got through the difficult situation.
Today in our world there is more negativity than ever before. As I write this, we are in the middle of a global pandemic that has kept us locked up in our homes, kept many people out of jobs, in addition to getting many people sick, and even dying. In the middle of all that are racial riots, political chaos, and much civil unrest. It’s easy to get sucked into that negativity, and even this generally optimistic person has at times. I’ve looked at the inconveniences of stores being closed, not being able to watch sports, and had doubts about my own health, even though I know God has told me through His word that I’ll be fine. However, as soon as I change my perspective, my emotional state changes. There is still a pandemic, and the racial protests haven’t stopped. Yet when I change the way I see this whole situation, it’s amazing how the personal blessings manifest. I thank God that because I have so much more time on my hands, I can write more. I can spend more time with my family. These blessings have been priceless. I realize how much the protests (the legal ones) are helping to bring about the much needed social changes our society needs. It’s seeing things this way that puts me in a better state and opens me up for greater blessings.
The Law of Attraction says that you will experience in life what you think in your mind and feel in your heart. The Bible says we reap what we sow. It then makes sense that the way we look at things determines how those things turn out. Knowing this, I challenge you (and me) to watch the way you look at things. Do your best to see the good in people and in things. Look for positives in every situation. When you do, those positives will manifest, sometimes in miraculous ways. Change the way you see things, and the things you see will change. Enjoy the blessings 🙂