Driving Home the Point That Thoughts Matter

March 3, 2021

This may be a different way to begin a post than I normally do, but I will admit that I am not the most patient driver. In fact, if I’m being honest, I will say that I am rather nasty. I have many pet peeves when I drive. I don’t drive very fast, but I get frustrated easily when people drive under the speed limit unnecessarily, or I get angry at those who don’t use their turn signals. Others annoy me because they are simply clueless on the roads.

Now, I am not painting a very positive picture of myself so I’m going to quit while I’m behind. It always surprises people when I share about how impatient and inconsiderate I am on the road. Most that know me well would tell you that I am one of the most mild-mannered, patient, kind, and sympathetic individuals on the planet. In fact, some even criticize how far I will go just to avoid a conflict. Perhaps it’s because I learned to drive while living on Long Island (one of the most difficult places to drive), but for whatever reason, driving is the only time I behave so poorly.

I share this with you because my negative driving habits came to light this past week. We added another (and last) daughter to our auto insurance policy. In order to keep costs down, we are offered discounts for enrolling in an online defensive driving course. I spent the day on the computer and actually enjoyed this excellent course. It was also a major wake-up call. I realized that my bad attitude and corresponding bad driving habits like illegal passes, balancing all kinds of foods with the steering wheel, and spending more time checking what’s on the radio than what’s in front of me were not only dangerous to me, but also to those around me. I realized I needed to change these negative habits. I decided that I was immediately going to become more courteous and more focused when I drove. In fact, I was going to take it a step further. Not only was I going to be courteous. I was going to be the most courteous driver on the road!

After being such a nasty driver for so long, and having enough experience to know how life works, I expected immediate tests to my patience. I was curious to see how long this new attitude would actually last. For the first few days, I held my end of the bargain (even though my end was the only end). However, as the days went on, there were no tests! No slow drivers or series of red lights to test my patience. Everyone was doing what they were supposed to be doing. Traffic was flowing smoothly every time. Drivers were even being extra courteous to me!  Even the weather cooperated. On the first day after the test, it snowed for most of the day… except for the times I drove that day!

I’ve written countless articles on this site about how the circumstances in our lives reflect the quality of focus on our thoughts. If we focus on positive thoughts, we generally experience positive outcomes. Of course, the same correlation is true for negative thoughts. I’ve seen many examples of this in my life. However, this experience has been a very powerful reminder. I realized that, even though it was on a subconscious level, every time I got into the car, I expected negative situations, that I ultimately encountered. Now, as my focus and attitude changed, I stopped encountering these negative circumstances. Driving was actually a joy. And this change occurred instantly!

I share this reminder with you, my cherished reader. Be conscious of your thoughts. Continually watch what you focus your thoughts on. If the circumstances in a particular situation are not as you would like them to be, I challenge you to change your focus. Instead of thinking about what’s wrong or what you don’t have, focus instead on what is already right and good, or at least what could be positive about it. I find this very encouraging because this strategy puts us in full control. We may not be able to control some or all of the circumstances around us, but we can all control our thoughts and attitudes which have the ultimate effect on how the circumstances turn out. Your results may not be as immediate as they were in my situation, but in most cases changes occur very quickly.

Once again I remind you that you will experience in life whatever you focus your thoughts on. If you constantly see the negative in people and things, that’s what you will continue to experience. If you see the good in people in things, you will only experience more of it. In addition, as they did with my new driving attitude, the negative situations will eventually diminish if you keep focused on the positive. Not everything is always going to go our way, and I’m not saying you’re wrong if you’re not happy every minute of the day. However, I have learned from many experiences (and now this recent one) that good things happen when you look for them. Enjoy the blessings 🙂


The Powerful Start to a Positive Attitude

November 22, 2015

This article is another in a series I am writing about the positive attitude attributes found on the self-reflection report card in Jeffrey Gitomer’s book “The Little Golden Book of Yes”.

In my opinion, this one is where it all starts. It is the concept of self-belief. The definition of self-belief I found through various sources is the confidence in one’s self and trust in their own abilities. Another one added, “the belief you can do things well”.

It makes sense that a positive attitude and positive results start with the belief and trust in one’s abilities. The more you believe and trust and in yourself, the more likely your attitude and outlook on life will be good. When your attitude is positive, it leads you to take the necessary action towards your goals instead of finding reasons why you can’t.

One question often asked is by those who especially have lacked self-belief during their lives. It is often very difficult to just turn on the switch and start believing in one’s self when life has been filled with one doubt and failure after the other. There are many ways to change this attitude. For this article, I will provide my thoughts and share a very helpful article from another author.

One giant step to developing self-belief is to know who you really are. I have been reminded of this constantly in the past year and a half. Yes, you are a body, frail that it might be, that is on this earth for approximately 80 years. However, according to the Bible, within that body is the kingdom of Heaven itself. The very power that runs the universe dwells within each one of us. This Godly power never fails. Even if you have failed countless times (I know I sure have), the God within you NEVER fails. When you rely on this all-knowing, all-powerful energy and guidance, your doubts and failures will quickly turn to faithful victories. Don’t let anyone tell you that it’s impossible or you can’t do it. Know that the God power within you can guide you and make it happen. Isn’t it a great peace to know that it’s not all up to you? Knowing this in itself is a great step to self-belief. When you turn to your “God-self”, you can’t go wrong.

In addition to realizing that the God of the universe dwells in you and has your life completely in control (if you let Him), I found another source of excellent information. This article, “7 Steps to Self-Belief” is a great guide to turning your attitude around and enhancing your self-belief. Even following some of them will help you.

I will say once again that I can’t think of any better first step in improving your attitude than self-belief. Even if you’ve never had it before, you can make positive changes today. Know that the kingdom of Heaven dwells in you, and spend time each day motivating yourself, changing the negative voice inside your head, and visualizing the success you desire. You can do whatever you set out to do. You just need to believe it. Enjoy the blessings 🙂

 


Back to Basics

November 1, 2015

back to the basics

It’s been a while since I’ve written at this site. Or anywhere at all for that matter. I apologize to those looking here for helpful, uplifting information. Sometimes life takes over (or as in this case we allow it to) and energy is needed somewhere else.

In many ways, 2015 has been an up and down year. I have continued to grow as a person and in my relationship with God. My entire family and I continue to be healthy and protected and enjoy a blessed life. However, in other ways, this year has been a step back. I have gone away from some of the great information and advice I’ve learned and share with you. As a result, I’ve experienced a stagnancy and more lower level emotions lately than the more energetic, higher vibrations that lead to greater blessing and enjoyment of life.

As I asked myself how to get back on the right track, it didn’t take long to answer the question. During other times in my life where I felt the same type of emotions, I succeeded by following a simple formula….get back to the basics. Other successful people in all fields follow the same advice. When a baseball player is in a hitting slump, he often returns to the very basics of hitting, from the stance, swing, and all of the taken for granted technical skills that made him successful in the first place. When a sales person is not selling, they often go back to the books and re-learn the basic skills of successful selling, once again doing the little things that brought big success.

As I reflected on this back to the basics mentality, I was almost immediately lead to a valuable resource of mine. When I first began the path to self-discovery and personal development over 8 years ago, I found and read a book by Jeffrey Gitomer called “The Little Golden Book of Yes”. It was this book that helped me realize how much my own attitude made the biggest difference in life, regardless of the obstacles I was facing. It made me realize I was the only person that determined how successful my life would or would not be, and I was fully responsible. I would highly recommend it to anyone, whether you are just beginning your personal discovery journey or you just need to get back to the basics. It was also this book that led me to discover some other great books I read, such as “The Power of Positive Thinking”, “Think and Grow Rich”, and “The Secret”. These books then inspired me to do further research and learning which have taken my life to a new level and has helped me do the same for others.

As I go back to basics, I am reading this book again (I’ve read it several times but it’s been a while). I realize I have learned a lot since the first time I read this book, but it has shown me how much I’ve been skipping over the basics lately, which is one main reason I am feeling like I am not where I want to be at this point. I also realize that if I begin to once again follow these very easy basics, I will quickly get back to my own personal growth and satisfy the desire to bring many people to a higher level in their lives.

That is where you come in. As a way to help myself get back to basics and get back to writing, I will share over the next few weeks some of these simple basics that can make major positive impacts in your life. It’s just a matter of getting into the habit of doing them on a regular basis. In the book, Gitomer presents a Yes Attitude self-reflection and report card. There are 22 personal attributes where you rate yourself on a scale of 1-5. At the end, you add your score and he tells you where you stand regarding your attitude attributes.

I will share these attributes with you over the next few weeks. I have made it my goal, as often as possible, to score a 5 in as many of these as I can each day. In fact, I rate myself every day and base my success on my score. I challenge you to do the same. As always, I welcome you to share how these or other attributes work for you, and how you get yourself back to the basics of life when you feel the need. In the meantime, enjoy the blessings 🙂


How To Create Your Own Luck

March 17, 2012

I am writing this article on St Patricks Day. I have absolutely no Irish in me, but I still like to focus on some of the themes of the day. One of those themes is luck. Are we all a little bit (or a lot) luckier today?

As I reflect on the topic of luck, I ask the question…is it possible we can create our own luck? I certainly believe we have significant control over the amount of “luck” that we encounter in our lives.

Recently, I found an article that discusses the topic of creating luck in our lives, and several things we can do. I now share information with you:

  1. Maintain a positive attitude. It is more obvious to me very day that, the more we maintain a positive frame of mind towards life, the more life rewards us with positive circumstances.
  2. Listen to yourself. Make sure your language is positive and confident.
  3. Picture success. Spend time each day seeing yourself as the positive, confident person you want to be. Also see each area of your life as you would like to be.
  4. Speak up. Instead of keeping things hemmed in, don’t be afraid to speak your mind.
  5. Link up with positive people. Let their luck rub off on you!
  6. Share with others. The more we share the more we seem to get back.
  7. Laugh a lot. Luck seems to always find happy people : )
  8. Be open to opportunity. You never know which one is “the one”.
  9. Take risks. The promised land is outside of your comfort zone, so we have to go outside of that comfort zone to get there.
  10. Do a good job. It is when we do our best in everything that “luck” seems to happen.

Here is a link to the article where I received this information….http://www.winnipegfreepress.com/opinion/columnists/positive-helpful-attitude-leads-to-success-make-your-own-luck-142175653.html

I find this information very helpful. I will let you decide if a result of these actions is luck or something far greater. Regardless, may the luck of St Patricks Day be with you today. Enjoy the blessings : )


A Happy Experiment

March 4, 2012

I read about an interesting little, but powerful experiment recently. I found it necessary to share.

The author (unfortunately I don’t remember where I saw this) discussed the power of a smile. They challenged the reader to smile, then try to think of something negative as you do it. I thought it was interesting, so I tried it. I was amazed how accurate the author’s statement was. As I continued to hold the smile on my face, I found it very difficult to think of anything negative. If a negative thought was able to come to mind, I either dismissed it very quickly or just laughed it off. I’ve had other people try this as well. Some were even skeptical at first, but they soon realized the truth and power of this scenario.

What’s the lesson in this? Simply, the more we smile the more positive our mindset will be. The more positive our mindset, the greater our chances of success. Also, when we demonstrate a positive attitude and a positive mindset, it’s contagious. Other people notice. It rubs off on them.

It is amazing how a simple smile can snowball into major positivity and success in all areas of our life. Is it that difficult to do? I really don’t think so. Yes, sometimes circumstances get in the way and make it difficult. But don’t let them. Even in the worst of times we can find things to smile about. If you do, things can turn positive in a hurry.

I strongly recommend you try this wonderful experiment. Whenever you can, smile. Dare the negative thoughts to enter your mind as you realize more and more they have no power over you. It’s a simple fact..when you smile at life, life smiles at you. Enjoy the blessings : )