When You Kill Them With Kindness You Bring Them to Life

November 15, 2015

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Do not let kindness and truth leave you; Bind them around your neck, Write them on the tablet of your heart. – Proverbs 3:3

A man who is kind benefits himself, but a cruel man hurts himself – Proverbs 11:17

This article is a continuation of a series I am sharing about positive and powerful attitude attributes in Jeffrey Gitomer’s book “The Little Golden Book of Yes”. It is part of a positive attitude report card shared in the book where the readers rate themselves on a scale of 1-5 to monitor their level of positive attitude. I have taken the challenge of trying to rate 5 for as many as the 22 attributes as possible. I challenge you to do the same, as doing so can drastically change the amount of positivity and power in your life.

The attribute I discuss today is kindness. The definition I found for kindness is the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate. It doesn’t sound too difficult to me, though I often wonder why so many people in the world today have such difficulty practicing it. I can’t say that I am perfect in practicing this in every situation, but I can say this…I have seen so many times how even just one simple kind act can not only change someone’s day, but can change their entire outlook on a negative situation, ultimately┬áenhancing one’s quality of life.

There are so many more Bible verses about kindness than the ones I shared at the beginning of the post. Besides being listed as one of the fruits of the Spirit in Galatians 5, one more that grabs my attention is Proverbs 25:11 which says that “A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in a setting of silver”. Often times, that fitly spoken word is a kind word. The second verse above says a man who is kind benefits. However, I find it more amazing that it is other people that benefit most when we are kind. And if you really want to stand out like gold, be kind in situations where kindness is not warranted or expected. It is extremely rare that people are kind when they have been wronged or hurt by someone. However, you can really be a true, Godly example by demonstrating such an attitude. It’s not easy to do, but I love the shock (or even frustration sometimes) on someone’s face when I return their negative or even rude behavior with kindness. Even if they don’t change from it, I at least get the satisfaction of knowing I handled the situation right and some kind of justice has been served.

As you can see, everyone wins when you demonstrate kindness. You benefit yourself, and most importantly, you make life better for those around you. The challenge going forward is to find as many opportunities as you can to demonstrate kindness to others (and please don’t forget to be kind to yourself as well). Even in difficult situations, find ways to kill ’em with kindness. Eventually it becomes habit, and the magnificent blessings magnify for you and everyone else. Enjoy them ­čÖé


One Year Wiser

December 22, 2013

I admit that I have been hooked on junk food for pretty much of all of my life. So much so that I’ve kept up with modern technology, and I’m even on the Wise chips e-mail list.

This list is good for something though. Besides coupons, I sometimes receive valuable information like I did today. Since the company is “Wise”, they sent me a list of “wise” tips to end this year with and┬áto use in┬áthe new one. I thought I would share. The tips go anywhere from being kind and thankful, to flossing your teeth and doing one thing at a time. I recommend you check out the list here…

http://www.wisesnacks.com/blog/our-wish-for-you.aspx#.UrcH-DYo7ct

Have an awesome day!


Leaving A Legacy

March 4, 2013

I’ve been away from writing during the past few days due to a death in the family. My wife’s step father passed away earlier this week.

Accepting the death of a loved one is never easy. However, it is easier to take in some situations, specifically this one. First of all, Paul was a strong and devout Christian. He took seriously the responsibility of spreading the word and helping people live the Christian life.

The greatest thing about Paul is the wonderful legacy he has left. He has had positive impacts on many people. His strong example has trickled down to his three daughters, their spouses and kids, and many other people around him. The wake and funeral were packed with people from all walks of his life; his family, friends from church, neighbors, work and class mates, and many more. The funeral was easily the most positive I have ever attended. Yes it was still sad to be discussing his greatness under these circumstances, but it was very uplifting. We know without a doubt where he is spending eternity, and one by one, people came to the stage to share Paul’s positive influences on them and other people.

These events make me think, and I will relay my thoughts to you. What will people say about you when you are gone? For me, I would love for people to say the same things they did about Paul. I would want them to discuss how I was a model of the Christian life. I would want them to discuss the many lives that were positively impacted because I allowed God to use me according to His will. I would want that just the mention of my name would put a smile on their face.

I will say this without offense…Paul was not at all perfect. He didn’t always make people happy. At times he was quite outspoken, and ticked some people off as a result. However, I say this as an inspiration because even though he wasn’t perfect, he still touched many lives and leaves this great legacy.

I challenge you to live your life so you will leave a great legacy when it’s all over. It is my goal, and I share it with my readers. Let us be great examples of love, positivity, joy, kindness, and all of the fruits of the Spirit. Even though we are not perfect, we can be a great example to those around us and leave a great legacy. This is definitely something Paul accomplished. He will certainly be missed.


A Powerful Challenge

November 3, 2011

Every once in a while, we experience a day on the job that is memorable, and one of a kind. I experienced that type of day today. At the school I work at, a representative from Colorado spoke about a program called Rachel’s Challenge.

In case you do not know what Rachel’s Challenge is, I will explain. It goes back to the unfortunate school shooting event at Columbine High School. Rachel was one of the students killed. She stood out because after her death, much information was found and shared about the wonderful contributions she had made, the hospitality she showed, and her mission to bring happiness and kindness to everyone she came in contact with. Her family decided to honor her by continuing the contributions she had already made and sharing her positive message with as many people as they could.

The individual that came to our school today spends her time traveling the country sharing the message with schools. The goal is to use this example to create a positive, caring environment. I will say that my school certainly needs this. I was very happy to have this program at my school because I have been praying on a regular basis for some type of positive influence in the school. It’s a great place, but is unfortunately infested with much negativity between students, teachers and students, and worse, teachers and teachers. I saw today’s visit as an answered prayer, as now our school is taking major steps to instill this much needed positivity.

I now share this challenge with those close to me, and anyone reading. With this challenge are five guidelines to showing the same kindness and love that Rachel did. They are:

  • Looking for the best in others. Everyone, no matter how many mistakes they’ve made, has something good about them. The key is to look for it, then focus on it.
  • Treat others as you want to be treated. This rule is “golden”
  • Stick with positive influences. There are so many negative influences out there. We need to be aware of who we allow to influence us. Rachel was influenced by Ann Frank and Martin Luther King. Find positive influences to follow and continue their example.
  • Use positive words only. Sticks and stones will break bones. You think names can never harm? Negative words can scar worse than any broken bone. Positive words can change someone’s life in a matter of seconds. Which influence do you want to be?
  • Forgive yourself and others. We all make mistakes. We have choices. We can allow those mistakes to drag us down. Or we can learn from them and let them go. When we let them go, we release the burdens that prevent us from loving ourselves and others.

As you can see this is not an easy challenge. However, it is definitely doable. I challenge myself and anyone else to do all we can to be this type of person. One who treats others (and ourselves) well, finds only the best in others, and does all they can to make this world a better place.

In the presentation they talked about causing a chain reaction of positive events. By following this example, we can cause a chain reaction of positive events and impacts on the world around us. If I died tomorrow, that’s what I would want to be remembered by. Would you take this challenge today and make your world a better place? If more people did this, our world would be so much more positive. Thank you Rachel for this wonderful model of life.