A Highly Effective Way to Remove Fears

July 9, 2020

I read something the other day that said of all things humans fear, only two fears are natural. One is the fear of falling. The other is the sound of a loud, sudden noise. I’m thinking fear of a threat to our life would go hand in hand with that. All other fears are unnatural. I focused on the validity of this statement for a few moments. The more I thought about it, the more I realized its truth. All other fears besides those that I have or you do are created by ourselves. Whether it’s a fear involving insects, people, or circumstances, I realize that any fear I have is not something I was born with and a natural part of my being. The fears were caused by my own thoughts, even if circumstances or other people caused me to think those thoughts.

The bad news is that we humans create many unnatural and unnecessary fears for ourselves. The badder news is that we allow those fears to prevent us from living life at its best, and from allowing God to use us to accomplish His will. The good news is that we are in full control. We are the ones that allowed those fears to build up in our minds, yet we are the ones that could permanently remove them and stop them from holding us back.

Some of you may be thinking that this process is easier said than done. From my own personal experience, I can tell you that is true. As much as I share about the power of the mind and liberating its life-giving powers, I still stubbornly allow fears to remain lodged in my mind more times than I care to admit. However, I have learned over time that I can deal with those fears in a two-step process: 1. acknowledge the fear instead of fighting it. 2. remove the fear and its negative effects.

So if it’s easier said than done to remove the fears, how do you ultimately do it? I’ve learned a very effective process called desensitization. I’ve been using this process since I was a teenager. It’s a complicated word, but an easy concept. To explain the process, I’m going to embarrass myself a bit with a story of how I found this process. As a child, I was never afraid of the dark, the boogeyman, monsters coming out of my closet, or any of those fears that often haunt children. I wasn’t impacted by scary movies at the time either. However, I read a book that scared me like never before. The book was called “The Amityville Horror.” The basic story is that a real-life mass-murder took place in the house. The truth of what happens afterward is disputed, but in the story, a new family moves in and is overtaken by evil spirits in the house. I found this very unnerving. Besides my proximity to Amityville (I grew up living 15 minutes from there), the spiritual concept of it seriously scared me. Now, after never being afraid of anything as a young child, at 14, I was all of a sudden petrified walking into a dark room, and that my room would be infested with evil spirits. I also dreaded waking up at 3:15 am, the time the murder occurred, and all of the bad things in the story happen.

I was embarrassed to be afraid of the dark at 14 years old. I had to do something about it, and I certainly couldn’t let anyone else know I had these childish fears (you reading this may be the first to know 🙂 ) During that summer, I was reading a self-hypnosis book that my father had. It talked about using hypnosis to desensitize ourselves of our fears. What does desensitize mean? It means to imagine yourself doing the things you are afraid of. Consistently see yourself doing those things with nothing negative happening. For my situation, I first hypnotized myself as I often did for other things even at that young age. I then visualized myself going into the dark with nothing bad happening. I reminded myself how I had been in dark rooms countless times before and had never had any reason to fear. I saw myself laying on my bed, alone in my room. Instead of evil spirits haunting me, I focused instead of how God’s presence filled the room. I saw myself waking up at 3:15 with nothing bad happening. I played this over and over in my mind until I actually believed that nothing bad would happen while being in the dark or waking up at that dreaded time. Within a week, I was cured of this fear that I had had for several weeks previous to that.

There have been numerous other fears that I have been able to cure in the same manner. I share this with you and anyone else struggling with unnatural fears. This method to remove fears works effectively. It worked for me and will work for you. The process is easy. The first thing to do is to get into a very relaxed state. Your subconscious mind (where the fear lives and needs to be removed from) is most receptive to new ideas when you are in this deeply relaxed state. I mentioned that I used self-hypnosis. Here is the process I use for self-hypnosis. You can use this or use something I often use called binaural beats. These are brainwave sounds to bring your mind to a theta or hypnotic state. You can find plenty of these on Youtube (here is the one I use) or on various phone apps. Or you can use meditation or whatever way you use most effectively to relax. Then, whatever your fear is, visualize yourself in the middle of it, and while you are there, see that the fear is not even close to being realized. For example, if you are afraid to speak in front of people, see yourself speaking in front of a large crowd. Instead of bad things happening, see the people listening attentively to what you have to say. Hear them applauding you. If you are afraid of traveling on an airplane, see yourself enjoying the comfortable flight and arriving safely at your destination. These are just a few examples. You can use this desensitization method to remove any fear, no matter how big or small it may be.

I read another message recently that says that the way to conquer your fears is to do what you fear. In essence, you are doing that with this process. The subconscious mind cannot tell the difference between a real or imagined event. It takes this mentally visualized event as real as if it were actually happening. Of course, if you have the opportunity to follow the above advice and actually, physically do what you fear then take that opportunity. This combination of mental visualization and physical action will remove the fear quickly. My story above proves that. Some fears may take a bit longer to disappear, especially if they deeply embedded in the subconscious. However, if you stick with this process, they will gradually be removed.

You don’t have to live with unnatural, unnecessary fear. Use this simple method to remove those fears. Then see how free you are to live out your dreams and accomplish God’s will for your life. Enjoy the blessings 🙂


A Biblical Way to Remove Fear

March 24, 2020

In today’s society, there are plenty of things to be fearful of. As I write this, we are in the middle of a Coronavirus shutdown. In my humble opinion, much of this has been caused by fear. Besides this, our society has plenty of other things to fear. In our country, mass shootings have become regular news, and it seems like other disasters like fires, tornadoes, etc. are happening more regularly. There is plenty of fear on an individual level too as we go through difficult situations, face difficult people, and fight the demons that remind us of past mistakes and failures.

Ok, I know what you are thinking, and I hope you haven’t quit reading yet. This site is known for positive and uplifting inspiration. Why all of a sudden the doom and gloom? Those who know me well would know that I am usually very optimistic. And I still am. However, even the best of us have things in our lives to make us fearful, and that stuff isn’t going to just go away.

The thing is though, we don’t have to let fear run our lives. In fact, the Bible is full of verses that talk about being courageous and being faithful instead of fearful. For the sake of simplicity, I will focus on one that reminded me of letting go of fear recently. It is from I John 4:18 which says “perfect love casts out all fear”. What is perfect love? Elsewhere in I John, it says that “God is love.” God is perfect love. I’ve shared this several times recently, and this article describes it in detail, but an excellent definition of love I’ve seen is “seeing God in everyone and everything.” It makes total sense. When you love someone, you are in essence seeing God in them. This definition helped me to love myself in a non-arrogant way. When you love yourself, you are seeing and becoming aware of the God presence that lives in you.

Based on the definition above, I see perfect love as seeing God in every person or situation. When you see and remain focused on God in something, it automatically brings great peace! You know that God has full control of the situation. Instead of remaining fearful, it is much easier to have faith and know that the situation will turn out right, even if it doesn’t go exactly as we think it should.

The key is to stay focused on God. See Him in every person, and in every situation. When you consistently do this, you will feel more empowered. This empowerment and peace will overshadow the fears that you had before. It may not exactly make those difficult situations go away, but you will be able to rise above them so much more easily. God will never let you down. That enough is able to dispel all fear. He is there for you always. Enjoy the blessings 🙂


Can Fear Be A Good Thing?

December 4, 2013

I often discuss in this blog that if we want to accomplish our goals and dreams, it is very important to have faith. I also mention that it is often fear that gets in our way and replaces the faith we are supposed to have. I have often thought..once I remove the fear and replace it with faith and confidence, I can accomplish the goal.

During the past few weeks, I have read some very different information, and it has greatly changed my philosophy. I am reading an excellent book called, “The Confidence Gap”, by Russ Harris. Like many of the books I’ve read, it deals with personal empowerment. However, unlike many of them, it does not discuss the affirmation and visualization techniques I have learned about and used.

The enlightening information that has changed my mental philosophy, is this idea: fear is a natural reaction, and the author explains why it is genetically engrained in us. The author reasons that fear is the completely natural human response anytime we move outside our comfort zone. He recommends that, instead of trying to fight and remove the fear, we are far better off accepting the fear. Then instead of letting the fear control us and move us away from our goal, we can  use this energy in a positive way to move us toward the desired result.

In many ways this goes against everything I’ve been taught. I always thought I was wrong to have fears and that God couldn’t work with me or for me if I did. However, this idea has brought a great deal of peace into my life. Instead of fear being abnormal, I am completely normal for having it. God created me, so He knows my natural response is fear. I realize more now that when I do fear, He simply wants me to rely on Him and channel the energy positively like the author (and God) recommends.

I present this peaceful information and receommendation to you, my cherished reader. If you are feeling fear in a difficult situation, there is nothing wrong with you. It simply shows that you are normal. The key is to avoid letting fear get the best of you. Instead of letting it control you, use the energy it creates, focus on the desired result of the task at hand, and simply go for it and do it.

You don’t think even the most confident people feel fear or anxiety? The athlete batting, pitching, shooting, or defending with the game on the line? The speaker delivering a key speech? The pianist or dancer performing live on stage? They may not show it, but they are all experiencing some fear or anxiety. The reason they may appear calm and confident is because, instead of letting fear get the best of them, they channel the energy correctly and creatively to help them perform their best at the most critical times.

Once again, I challenge you to do the same. Don’t let fear get the best of you. Instead, use it for the good it’s intended for. Use your mind to pray and focus, and use your increased adrenelaine to take positive action to accomplish the task at hand.

Through this I have learned that fear will never go away. I wasn’t ok with this before, but I am now. As long as you don’t let fear get a grip on you and bring you down, you can be ok with this too. Once again, instead of letting it negatively affect you, let it inspire and motivate you to “just do it” and live more of the life you want to live. That is certainly nothing to be afraid of. Enjoy the blessings : )