Joy is Your Natural State

February 28, 2019

It is very true that people are always looking for more joy in their lives. Millions of dollars are made on books and programs that show people how they can be happier and more joyful. In fact, we have our greatest desires not so we can feel more accomplished or successful. We have our greatest desires because we believe they will bring us greater joy and a more rewarding life experience.

The problem with this is that we are searching in all of the wrong places for our joy. I’m not saying it’s wrong to read books or do things that we believe will make us happier. Nor am I saying we shouldn’t have the dreams and desires that we do. What I am saying is that we don’t have to go looking on the outside for the joy we are so desperately craving. Instead, we need to realize that joy is at the essence of our being. It is one of the fruits of the spirit that we are all part of. Joy is not something we need to go out and find. If we can spend enough time to meditate on who we really are, and realize that love, joy, peace and the other fruits of the spirit are our true, intended states of being, then we won’t have to seek joy. It will automatically manifest because, again, joy is our natural state. Sadness, anger, and negative emotions are NOT natural. They are only emotional states that we bring upon ourselves.

I understand that things happen in our lives that make it difficult to experience joy. People or experiences hurt us, or we lose people in our lives because of disagreement, break-up, or death. I’m not at all saying that we shouldn’t feel sad in those circumstances or angry at an injustice. At the same time, I am saying that we shouldn’t let any circumstance determine the level of joy we experience in our lives.

The question that may be asked now is, “how do I allow this joy that is my natural state to manifest in my world?” There are several ways you can do this. These work for me, so I share them with you. First, as I mentioned earlier, take breaks throughout the day in meditation, reflection, prayer, or whatever you want to call it. Reflect upon the fact that the spirit of God lives in you. It is part of your essence. Remember again that joy is one of the fruits of that spirit. The Bible also says that when you seek that spirit first, above all else, you receive all else (all else shall be added onto you)! That includes joy.

Another helpful hint is to actually do things that make you feel joyful. Whenever you can find time during the day, do something that makes you happy. Listen to your favorite music. Take a nature walk. Play a game. Talk to a friend. Anything you can do that will increase your level of joy.

It is also said that emotions follow the action. That’s why I always recommend smiling as much as possible. When you carry a smile on your face, it automatically brings more joy. This never fails!! Even when I’ve been in the worst of moods, and I’m forcing the fake smile on my face, it always gets me out of the funk, and the smile becomes real, and the level of joy increases. Sticking with this theme, it’s also true that the more you focus on joy, the more reasons in life you will be given to be joyful.

Once again I will say it. Joy is your natural state. You don’t have to seek it anywhere else but inside of you. Make it a point to focus on the joy that is a part of you, and you will experience it.

It was certainly a joy to write this. I hope it is equally joyful for you to read it. Have an excellent day 🙂


Proof That a Simple Smile Can Make You Happy

November 12, 2015

 

A smiling face is a beautiful face. A smiling heart is a happy heart – Dr. T.P Chia.

I am continuing a series of articles today from the top life-changing attitude attributes from Jeffery Gitomer’s book “The Golden Book of Yes”. These are habits that, when developed, will keep your attitude at its most positive, and enable you to be the confident, capable you are intended to be.

Todays attitude attribute is one I firmly believe in. It is very simple, yet many of us ignore its amazing benefits. The command (if you can even call it that) is to smile. It is amazing how much power a smile has. Its benefits to you and to those around you are very much underestimated, especially in today’s fast-paced, stressful world.

I find the significance and power of a smile so important, I made it the first chapter of my book, “30 Days to a More Powerful Life“. I share this chapter with you here….

How much power does a smile have? Think about holding or watching a baby. What happens when that baby innocently smiles at us? Well, I cannot think of one human being that would not smile back at the baby, regardless of the mood they are in. If the smile of an infant only several months old can have such a positive effect, can it be the same with older kids and adults? I am a firm believer in the power of a smile. In his book “How to Win Friends and Influence People”, Dale Carnegie notes that a smile is a simple way to make a great first impression.[i] Based on what I have read and my own observations, here are several powerful effects of a smile:

  • It makes us feel good about ourselves. I’m not an expert on psychology, but it is said that, not only do our actions follow our emotions, but it can work the other way around. When we smile, the positive emotions follow. By smiling and remaining positive, we have a better outlook on all aspects of our life.
  • We receive positive reactions from others. Think of the baby and how we smile back. In most cases, if we smile at someone, they will smile back.
  • It is a sign of confidence. Think of those who constantly have smiles on their faces. Doesn’t it seem like they have everything totally under control?
  • It can solve a negative situation. I’ve dealt with angry customers and upset students. When I approach them with a smile and gentleness, they are much more willing to listen and cooperate.

Smiling is also known to have several health benefits. I read an article online by Dr. Mark Stibich. He lists 10 ways that smiling affects our health, stress level, and attractiveness:[ii]

  1. Smiling makes us more attractive.
  2. Smiling improves our mood.
  3. Smiling is contagious.
  4. Smiling relieves stress.
  5. Smiling boosts your immune system.
  6. Smiling lowers blood pressure.
  7. Smiling releases endorphins, natural pain killers, and Serotin. It’s a natural drug!
  8. Smiling lifts the face and makes you look younger.
  9. Smiling makes you seem successful.
  10. Smiling helps you stay positive.

I love the test Dr. Stibich includes at the end of his article. He challenges us to smile, and then try to think of something negative without losing the smile. It is very difficult to do because the smile sends the message that all is well in our worlds, and it conflicts and actually repels any negative thoughts.

As you can see, there are plenty of other benefits to a smile. It is such a simple concept, yet how many of us fail to do this? I do my best to keep a smile on my face, but sometimes still end up doing so much less than I should. Smiling is contagious. Starting from just one person, it can spread joy very quickly, and have powerful impacts on everyone in the office, classroom, household, or whatever environment. Why not help ourselves and those around us stay positive and enjoy life simply by smiling often? It is a challenge that I am willing to take, and I suggest it to you too.

Action Plan: As mentioned, smiling is a very easy thing to do. Even when things are not going as well as we would like, we can make a conscious effort to smile, and it can make a difference in our circumstances. Whenever you think of it throughout the day, allow yourself to smile. The more you do it, the more natural it becomes. Eventually, you begin to experience the many benefits mentioned above. The result is a happier and more beneficial life for you and for those around you.

[i] Carnegie, D. (1936) How to Win Friends and Influence People, 95. New York. Simon and Schuster.

[ii] Stibich, M. Ph.D, Top 10 Reasons to Smile. About.com. Updated February 4, 2010.

I certainly hope this information convinces you to smile more today. As you will see, the more you do so, the better you will feel and will help others do the same. Enjoy the blessings 🙂


What’s Right With You?

December 15, 2014

What’s wrong with me? Have you ever asked yourself that question? If you are like almost all human beings, you have. Unfortunately, many people ask the question all too often. When we are struggling to find the desired partner,lose weight, break a habit, keep a job, or whatever, we tend to focus on what is wrong with us.

The problem is that as we keep our focus on what is wrong with us, the Law of Attraction says we ultimately cause more of it to appear in our lives. How do you turn this around? Spend time as often as possible thinking about what is right with you. No one is perfect. Yet even if you have many negative qualities (all of us have at least some) there is at least something that you are good at and some positive quality you can share with the world. Everyone also has at least something they can be thankful for. Even if things in your life aren’t going well, there is at least something you can thank God for, even if it’s simply the ability to breathe and drink clean water.

The bottom line is that, according the same law mentioned above, we receive in life what we focus on. If we focus on what is right and good about ourselves and our lives, we will see more of it. Ultimately, our positive qualities grow even stronger, and we are able to make more of a difference in the world.

I strongly suggest you change your focus to what is right with you. What do you have to offer the world? What are your most proud of about yourself? What do you have to be thankful for? The more you focus on that, the happier you will be. And it’s amazing how those negative qualities tend to naturally disappear! If you look closely enough, there is a lot that’s right with you. Focus on that “rightness” and goodness, and it will be a greater part of your life. Enjoy the blessings 🙂


A Thanksgiving Reflection

November 29, 2013

Here in the U.S. we celebrated Thanksgiving on November 28. It’s a day to pause and give thanks for all of the blessings we have in life and enjoy the day with people we are thankful to have in our lives.

I always reflect on things to be thankful for on this day and the ones after it. Many other people do the same. However, this year I am doing some extra thinking about things to be thankful for. This is because I have learned more than ever before about gratitude this year, mainly due to a book I read by Rhonda Byrne called, “The Magic”. The book takes the reader on a 28 day journey on being grateful for all of the blessings in all areas of life now, and those yet to come. The goal is that it becomes a regular habit to be thankful each day.

For me, the book has for the most part accomplished that purpose. Sure, there are days where I forget to thank God for my blessings, and others that I complain about injustice or what I don’t have. For the most part though, gratitude has become a regular part of my life, and  I am thankful for that in itself.

I have come to realize that the more we appreciate the small things in life, the bigger blessings we receive, and the more reason we have to be thankful. I especially reflect on that this Thanksgiving season.

I share this to portray my own thinking, but also challenge anyone else to strongly consider the blessings you have in all areas of your life. As I mentioned before, this will not only add more joy and happiness to your life now, but will provide more reasons to be thankful as you continue to make gratitude a regular habit.

As long as I am being thankful, I will thank all of my wonderful readers from the bottom of my heart. I have received a far greater response in this space than I could have ever imagined, and I thank you all for visiting, spreading the word, and sharing your input. It means the world to me. Have an excellent day : )


Powerful Advice That Will Serve You Well

September 17, 2013

If you want love you’ve got to give a little

If you want faith just believe a little

If you want peace turn your cheek a little

You’ve got to give, you’ve got to give to live.

The above lyrics come from one of my favorite 80s songs, “Give to Live”, by Sammy Hagar. I share it because I have been reminded of this message on several occasions lately. Again, I take that as a sign that God is trying to tell me something.

What is He trying to tell me? I believe the message is that if you want something really bad, He expects you to give it away first. Give to others what you are seeking yourself.

It makes sense according to the law of sowing and reeping (or the Law of Attraction). In essence, you get what you give. If you think positive thoughts, you receive positive results. This takes it a step further in saying that when you take positive actions, you receive positive outcomes and responses.

This law is so simple, yet how many people ignore it? I say this because even though I am aware of how this works, I still fall into the same trap. Sometimes the simplicity of it actually scares people away. Other times, we just get so caught up in doubt and negativity that it clouds our thinking from faith and positivity.

I ask you now…what is it you want most in life? Is it happines? Then go make someone happy. Is it more time for yourself? First spend some time serving someone else. Is it more money? Start by sharing some money with a charity or someone who needs it more than you.

Whatever it is you are most desperately seeking, find a way to serve and give it to someone else. Please don’t do it with the intent on receiving back, because that defeats the whole purpose. Instead, do it without even thinking about it. Do it for the great feeling you receive knowing you helped someone else in need. I have found from experience that when you give this way, it not only comes back to you, but it arrives in more and better ways than you can ever think of.

I challenge you to give away what you want most today. I promise that you won’t be wanting it for much longer because you will have it in abundance. Enjoy the blessings : )


11 Ways You Can Improve Your Life Practically Overnight

September 7, 2013

You can’t go wrong with these tips. If you follow them consistently, the desired changes in your life will occur immediately.

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16 Signs You’re Happier Than You Think

August 14, 2013

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