A True Definition of Self-Love

January 11, 2017

The concept of loving oneself is a difficult one for many to follow. People are afraid they are being arrogant if they love themselves, or they see so many imperfections that they find it impossible. I believe every person has felt this way at some point. Unfortunately many still feel this way today.

Besides the Biblical definitions of love, the best I’ve seen is from Eckhart Tolle in his book “The Power of Now”. In the book, he simply defines love as seeing God in everyone and everything. I have never found a more simple definition of the word. God’s spirit is within us all. So when you love yourself, you are simply seeing or acknowledging God’s presence in you. When you love someone else, you are seeing and acknowledging His presence in them. Even if you love a thing, like pizza for example, God is responsible for that too!

We are all imperfect people. Yet Luke 17:21 in the Amplified version says the Kingdom of God is within you and surrounding you. It’s there whether you see it or not. However, if you do see, feel, and acknowledge it in you, you are loving yourself!

The Bible also says to love your neighbor as yourself. That’s another thing people often have a hard time doing. However, when you see love this way, it is easy. If God is in and around you, he is also in and around your neighbor. When you acknowledge this and see God’s presence in other people (the same presence that is in you), it is much easier to see beyond their imperfections and indeed love them.

Please know it is not selfish to love yourself. In fact, it is selfish if you don’t. The more you see and experience God’s presence in yourself, the more you will see it in others, and the easier it will be to love them. I challenge you to see God’s love, peace, and power in you today. That is true love. And remember, when you seek Him first, all other good things follow. Because of God’s presence in you, you are beautiful, amazing, and any other good thing you can think of. Don’t you love it?


You Can Instantly Destroy Worry

November 10, 2015

I very much enjoy listening to sermons and inspirational messages from around the country. They are readily available online and I enjoy being inspired by these great speakers as often as possible.

I heard one such message yesterday from the C3 church in Orlando Florida (you can listen here for the full message) and felt the need to share as soon as possible. The message was about worry. The pastor shares how worry does absolutely nothing to help us, yet we often continue to make a habit out of it instead of focusing on God’s promises to move forward in our lives and accomplish our goals.The pastor then shares some excellent advice on how you can remove doubt by seeking God and His kingdom first, and relying on His promises to carry you through any obstacles to develop the necessary faith to accomplish God;s will for your life.

This all occurred as I am in the middle of re-reading a book I have read several times called “The Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle (further proof that God does things for a reason). This potentially life-changing book shares the importance of remaining focused on the present moment and “living there” as often as possible. As I heard the sermon last night, I instantly realized another excellent way to avoid worry. That is…remaining as often as possible in the present moment.

When you remain in the present moment it is impossible to worry. If you don’t believe me, I challenge you to try it. What is worry anyway? It is fear about a future event. Even if that event is only minutes away, it is still in the future. When you remain squarely focused on the present moment you have full control. There is absolutely nothing to fear in the present moment. Even if there is some crazy situation happening (like you are in the middle of a street and a car is coming at you at that moment) your instinct will take over and you will act at that moment to avoid the negative situation.

I find that when I place my full focus on the present moment, fear disappears instantly. And when I follow Jesus’s advice of seeking Him and the Kingdom first, a feeling of faith and power takes over what was once doubt and worry. It is then that I am setting myself up for blessing and miracles. The same is true for you.

Do you want to break the worry habit? If your answer is yes, simply anchor yourself in the present moment as often as possible. You can pray and take action yes, but even if you just spend several minutes observing and enjoying whatever is happening at that time, you are destroying the power that worry can have in your life. So why not take even just a few minutes at a time to enjoy the gift that is the present and destroy worry and its negative feelings? The more you enjoy the positive feelings that arrive as a result, the more you will want to continue this habit and reap the benefits. Enjoy the blessings 🙂


How Was 2014?

December 30, 2014

End of Year 2014

We have already arrived at the end of this “new” year (seems like it just started yesterday) 2014. I hope yours was a great one.

As I like to give me readers occasional glimpses inside my head, I will complete one of my annual “selfish” posts and share some of my own reflections of this past year. For me, 2014 was like the past five years. I was optimistic that this would be the breakthrough year where my greatest dreams would come true. Although it didn’t quite happen, it was a year of serious personal growth that has taken me steps closer to realizing my ultimate goals.

My greatest growth was a spiritual strengthening and renewal. My Christian walk has grown steadily for the past few years. However, I realized more than ever that the kingdom of heaven is within me, and that God’s spirit is not only near me, but an actual part of me. Reading books like Wayne Dyer’s “Wishes Fulfilled”, and St. Germain’s “I Am Discourses” really enlightened me to this truth and helped me begin to live it out. I also benefited greatly from learning more about the importance of living in the present moment instead of dwelling on past or worrying about the future. Eckhart Tolle’s book “The Power of the Present Moment” was a great help in getting me there. It’s a book I tried to read in the past but found it very difficult to understand. I guess the timing was right this time around and it truly resonated each time I read it. Regardless, I discovered that living in the present moment is truly one of our greatest powers.

In other areas of my life, there was some growth, while some areas didn’t grow as much as I would have liked. The greatest blessing was in the financial area as this was far and away my greatest financial year. We were able to put a significant dent in out debt and paid most of it off completely. I was provided a different part time job in addition to my teaching that paid twice what the previous one did.

The one area that still needs great improvement is my leadership at home. People tell me I am a good father, and I believe it. I still feel like I could be a much better husband and leader. I am home less due to the work schedule, which makes it a bit difficult. That will be major focus for next year. Speaking of jobs, I am less than happy with either of them. On the other hand, I am extremely happy to have them, and thankful for the income and impacts I can have on other people, especially adolescents. My ultimate goal is to work one job from home, and steps were taken this year to potentially make that happen.

Finally, I can also be thankful for the great health of myself and my family. We are very well protected, and none of us was sick for an extended period of time. Even among my crazy schedule, I did not miss any days because of extended sickness.

The bottom line, as I end another year, is I have SO much to be thankful for. I serve a God that has only my best in store, wants to bless me abundantly, and is a part of my very being. I take this with me as I head into 2015. I am setting some major goals, and look forward to the journey to reach them.

I thank you for staying with me for one person’s take on this past year. I invite you to share how 2014 was for you. I hope you have grown and can also eagerly look forward to 2015. Enjoy the blessings 🙂


The Power of How

March 19, 2014

You may start by asking if the above title is a typo. Isn’t it supposed to be the power of now? I am aware of the excellent book by Eckhart Tolle and the importance of being in the now. However, what you read is indeed the intended title of this post.

What do I mean by the power of how? I heard this message before and was reminded of it again several days back. It’s an excellent way to motivate yourself to take action to reach your goals. The concept is that whenever you need solutions to your problems and need to determine what action to take to get closer to your realized goal you ask the question “how”.

In essence, I see it as asking the question twice. Once to God, then to yourself. Asking this question of “how” is very empowering for a number of reasons. One is that if you seriously focus on it, you ALWAYS receive answers. In fact, God is waiting for you to ask how to accomplish something. He always guides you when you ask for this wisdom. Second, is when your mind is challenged to come up with an answer to this question, it works to find it and subconsciously direct you to the necessary action.

I challenge you to try this. Think of something you want to accomplish. Let’s say you are seeking a new job. Ask yourself and God…”how can I find a new job?” Ask God in prayer and you will be amazed at the rapid and helpful response. Ask yourself and see how quickly your mind provides ideas and directions for you to move. Then the key is to take those ideas and responses and run with them. Act on them as soon as you can. If you do, things in your life will move in a hurry. This is true not only for finding a job, but for any area of your life such as finding a relationship, getting more healthy, receiving more money, or whatever goal you have.

I can tell you from experience that this formula works. Every time I seriously ask this how question, I receive answers, often sooner than I would have even expected. In recent days I’ve reflected on the how, and things are happening very quickly. There are certain life changes I have been considering. At this point I am even a bit nervous because I am receiving results, information, phone calls, etc. much quicker than I anticiapted. It’s all good, but I may have to make some serious decisions and take some God-induced risks very soon.

I recommend again that you regularly ask this how question to take yourself to the next level in life. Think of where you want to go and ask God and yourself how to accomplish it. You WILL receive answers. Then you take it from there. Enjoy the blessings 🙂