The Powerful Start to a Positive Attitude

November 22, 2015

 

This article is another in a series I am writing about the positive attitude attributes found on the self-reflection report card in Jeffrey Gitomer’s book “The Little Golden Book of Yes”.

In my opinion, this one is where it all starts. It is the concept of self-belief. The definition of self-belief I found through various sources is the confidence in one’s self and trust in their own abilities. Another one added “the belief you can do things well”.

It makes sense that a positive attitude and positive results start with the belief and trust in one’s abilities. The more you believe and trust and in yourself, the more likely your attitude and outlook on life will be good. When your attitude is positive, it leads you to take the necessary action towards your goals instead of finding reasons why you can’t.

One question often asked is by those who especially have lacked self-belief during their lives. It is often very difficult to just turn on the switch and start believing in one’s self when life has been filled with one doubt and failure after the other. There are many ways to change this attitude. For this article I will provide my thoughts and share a very helpful article from another author.

One giant step to developing self-belief is to know who you really are. I have been reminded of this constantly in the past year and a half. Yes, you are a body, frail that it might be, that is on this earth for approximately 80 years. However, according to the Bible, within that body is the kingdom of Heaven itself. The very power that runs the universe dwells within each one of us. This Godly power never fails. Even if you have failed countless times (I know I sure have), the God within you NEVER fails. When you rely on this all-knowing, all-powerful energy and guidance, your doubts and failures will quickly turn to faithful victories. Don’t let anyone tell you that it’s impossible or you can’t do it. Know that the God power within you can guide you and make it happen. Isn’t it a great peace to know that it’s not all up to you? Knowing this in itself is a great step to self-belief. When you turn to your “God self”, you can’t go wrong.

In addition to realizing that the God of the universe dwells in you and has your life completely in control (if you let Him), I found another source of excellent information. This article, “7 Steps to Self-Belief” is a great guide to turning your attitude around and enhancing your self-belief. Even following some of them will help you.

I will say once again that I can’t think of any better first step in improving your attitude than self-belief. Even if you’ve never had it before, you can make positive changes today. Know that the kingdom of Heaven dwells in you, and spend time each day motivating yourself, changing the negative voice inside your head, and  visualizing the success you desire. You  can do whatever you set out to do. You just need to believe it. Enjoy the blessings 🙂

 

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Think Yes First

November 8, 2015

When you think of your greatest desire, or a goal you want to accomplish, what is the first thing you think of regarding the possibility of its completion? When someone asks you a question, what is usually your response, or even the tone of it? This answer usually depends on the quality of your attitude. When you have a positive attitude, and you think about the possibility of accomplishing your goal, you usually think in yes terms. When someone asks you a question while you are maintaining a positive frame of mind, you tend to answer in the affirmative. Of course, the opposite is true if you maintain a negative frame of mind.

I am continuing in a series regarding positive attitude attributes found in Jeffrey Gitomer’s book, “The Little Golden Book of Yes”. Practicing these positive attitudes and making them habit can easily transform your life. It makes sense that thinking yes first can speed up this process. I share an exaggerated example, but one that proves this point very well. A great movie I’ve seen in recent years is a Jim Carey movie called “The Yes Man”. Carey plays a man who is generally unhappy in life, mainly because of focusing on fears which have led to a negative attitude. He attends a seminar which he is challenged to say yes to everything in life. He cannot say no. It leads to him leaving his comfort zone and trying some crazy things that he would have never thought to do before. However, for the first time in his life he feels a sense of adventure and fulfillment, and his life changes in many positive ways. These situations and relationships would have never occurred if he didn’t think yes first and had automatically thought no as he always did before.

This movie really challenged me. Yes, it is an extreme and humorous way to teach a lesson, but it is one that has stuck with me in the years since I have seen this film. In many ways I limited myself because of an automatic no response, instead of thinking yes and seeing where it would lead me. I wish I can say I’ve completely gone away from the no thinking and letting fear rob me of potential blessings. However, I realize how valuable a yes attitude is and how thinking yes first can lead me and anyone else to receiving blessings I would never have imagined I have experienced these blessings and yes is my first thought. It is true that I may have to be uncomfortable and even inconvenienced, but the blessings and rewards far outweigh any discomfort.

I challenge you to think yes first. You don’t have to say yes to everything. In fact, in the movie, Carey learns that it is not always possible and even beneficial to say yes to everything. However, do all you can to think yes first. At first, this may be a hard habit to break. It was for me, and as mentioned, yes is still not completely automatic. If your knee-jerk reaction is no, quickly bring yourself back and think how the no could be a yes. The more you do it, the easier it gets. And when you feel the wonderful feelings of the blessings and miracles it brings, you will be motivated to do it more.

Can it be done? Can your life be changed simply by focusing on a yes response as often as possible? I answer with a resounding YES!!! Enjoy the blessings 🙂


Back to Basics

November 1, 2015

back to the basics

It’s been a while since I’ve written at this site. Or anywhere at all for that matter. I apologize to those looking here for helpful, uplifting information. Sometimes life takes over (or as in this case we allow it to) and energy is needed somewhere else.

In many ways, 2015 has been an up and down year. I have continued to grow as a person and in my relationship with God. My entire family and I continue to be healthy and protected and enjoy a blessed life. However, in other ways, this year has been a step back. I have gone away from some of the great information and advice I’ve learned and share with you. As a result, I’ve experienced a stagnancy and more lower level emotions lately than the more energetic, higher vibrations that lead to greater blessing and enjoyment of life.

As I asked myself how to get back on the right track, it didn’t take long to answer the question. During other times in my life where I felt the same type of emotions, I succeeded by following a simple formula….get back to the basics. Other successful people in all fields follow the same advice. When a baseball player is in a hitting slump, he often returns to the very basics of hitting, from the stance, swing, and all of the taken for granted technical skills that made him successful in the first place. When a sales person is not selling, they often go back to the books and re-learn the basic skills of successful selling, once again doing the little things that brought big success.

As I reflected on this back to the basics mentality, I was almost immediately lead to a valuable resource of mine. When I first began the path to self-discovery and personal development over 8 years ago, I found and read a book by Jeffrey Gitomer called “The Little Golden Book of Yes”. It was this book that helped me realize how much my own attitude made the biggest difference in life, regardless of the obstacles I was facing. It made me realize I was the only person that determined how successful my life would or would not be, and I was fully responsible. I would highly recommend it to anyone, whether you are just beginning your personal discovery journey or you just need to get back to the basics. It was also this book that led me to discover some other great books I read, such as “The Power of Positive Thinking”, “Think and Grow Rich”, and “The Secret”. These books then inspired me to do further research and learning which have taken my life to a new level and has helped me do the same for others.

As I go back to basics, I am reading this book again (I’ve read it several times but it’s been a while). I realize I have learned a lot since the first time I read this book, but it has shown me how much I’ve been skipping over the basics lately, which is one main reason I am feeling like I am not where I want to be at this point. I also realize that if I begin to once again follow these very easy basics, I will quickly get back to my own personal growth and satisfy the desire to bring many people to a higher level in their lives.

That is where you come in. As a way to help myself get back to basics and get back to writing, I will share over the next few weeks some of these simple basics that can make major positive impacts in your life. It’s just a matter of getting into the habit of doing them on a regular basis. In the book, Gitomer presents a Yes Attitude self-reflection and report card. There are 22 personal attributes where you rate yourself on a scale of 1-5. At the end, you add your score and he tells you where you stand regarding your attitude attributes.

I will share these attributes with you over the next few weeks. I have made it my goal, as often as possible, to score a 5 in as many of these as I can each day. In fact, I rate myself every day and base my success on my score. I challenge you to do the same. As always, I welcome you to share how these or other attributes work for you, and how you get yourself back to the basics of life when you feel the need. In the meantime, enjoy the blessings 🙂


Can Thinking of What You Don’t Want Help You?

November 3, 2014

If you know anything about positive thinking and the Law of Attraction, you know that negative thinking is not very helpful. This is because when you focus on what you don’t want, you attract more of it into your life. One of the main keys to rapid manifestation is to focus positively on what you want. That’s how you are most likely going to see it happen.

It is very important to maintain positive thoughts. However, I’ve recently been presented several takes on the importance of knowing exactly what it is that you DON’T want. Why? Because everything you don’t want has an exact opposite….that is what you DO want. I was reminded that when you know exactly what you don’t want, it helps bring to mind what you do want. I tried this, and here’s an example of how easy it is. At this time in my life I don’t want to work two stressful, unfulfilling jobs as I do now. This reminds me that what I DO want is a job that allows me more freedom, more income, and greater fulfillment. I can take it a step further by being even more specific. I want to work from home doing something that brings greater joy and positivity to thousands of people.

Once I realize this, I focus my thoughts on this goal. I visualize myself enjoying the extra freedom and income this job provides. I feel the joy of knowing that God is using me to bring happiness and fulfillment to many others. In as much detail and clarity I replay these positive scenes in my mind and feel the immense joy of this mental movie.

The next step is to act on opportunities to make it happen. I don’t force the issue. I simple seek answers and solutions then act on this inspiration with the joy and peace of knowing that it is leading me closer to the goal.

As mentioned, dwelling on negative thoughts and what we don’t want is not helpful, and only pulls you further away from what you really want. However, I share with you what I have learned…the fact that at times it is important to think about what we don’t want and use that to become completely clear about what we do want. Then we take the necessary steps in that direction.

I ask you…how do you deal with negative thoughts when they arise? I would love for you to comment and share. It would certainly help me and anyone reading this. I thank you in advance and wish you tremendous blessings 🙂


A Simple Way to Remove Negative Emotions

August 25, 2014

I write often about negative emotions and the importance of not letting them hold you back from accomplishing your goals and dreams. I will admit that this is often easier said than done. It is natural that we all experience negative emotions. After all, we are human beings.

Many people are aware of the importance of releasing those negative feelings. The problem is that many don’t know how to do it. After doing some quality reading this week, I found a consistent theme that can be an instant help in removing those nagging negatives from your mind.

Are you ready for this quick and helpful fix? It’s as simple as focusing on the present moment. I’ve learned so much about present moment living, and I’ve shared much of that knowledge on this space. As the days go by, God is making it ever more clear that living in the present moment is of the utmost importance and benefit.

I say it often and will share again. When you live in the present, you don’t allow the mistakes of the past to get you down and hold you back. And you don’t let worries of the future prevent you from moving ahead. It is incredibly empowering because you have absolute full control. This is your moment and you can use it IN WHATEVER WAY YOU CHOOSE. How empowering is that?

Knowing this, you have a quick and easy way to remove negative thoughts. After all, negative thoughts are most often caused by past failures or doubts and worries about the future. When you remove your focus from those time frames and put it solely on the present, you have the power of decision to allow positive, solutions-based thoughts to enter your mind instead. Then you can take positive, focused action on those thoughts. This usually results in much greater productivity, which only produces more confidence and positivity, ultimately carrying you where you want to go.

The next time you find negative thoughts invading your mind, first stop, acknowledge them, and catch them. Realize they are only thoughts and they have no power over you. Then focus on the moment. Think of all the good around you at this moment. Think of all of the reasons to be happy and thankful at that moment. It’s amazing how quickly this can change your emotional state. In this greater positive frame of living, remain focused on the moment and consider what you can do joyfully in this moment to bring yourself closer to where you want to be.

Our minds wander often and it is easy to get taken away from the present moment. However, the more you can make it a habit to reel yourself in and remain focused on the present, the more power and positivity you bring into your life. I have found that with practice, it is entirely possible, and I am beginning to experience these benefits on a regular basis.

What are you happy and thankful for right now? Think about it, enjoy it, and stay in the moment as long as you can. Enjoy the blessings 🙂


Controling Your Thoughts

August 10, 2014

I have learned a great deal over the past few years that the quality of your life depends first on the quality of your thoughts. I share about it often at this blog. However, sometimes controlling your thoughts can be very difficult. They can be like a runaway train and you may find it difficult to control your thoughts and keep them positive.

Even though I have learned to become master of my own thoughts, I still sometimes go through times where I realize that I’ve allowed some unhealthy thoughts to enter. I try to catch this as quickly as possible because I know that I need to think positively in order to be productive.

One excellent way to target your mind to positive thinking is a Bible quote from Philippians. Whenever I struggle to maintain positive thoughts I often go back to this verse. I was reminded of it again recently. Philippians 4:8 says… Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.

It is a great reminder about what to think about, especially if you are having difficulty keeping your mind focused on positive things. The art of positive thinking goes well beyond this, as in affirmations, visualization, and the like. However, this is the most excellent rule of thumb and “back to the basics” method of positive thinking that I believe there is. Simply thinking about beautiful things, blessings to be thankful for, or any good thing in your life will bring you back to thinking positively and impact your day positively as well.

I recommend taking at least a few minutes several times during the day to reflect on admirable, praiseworthy things and people around you. You will notice the immediate impact in your attitude. This then affects everything else to relationships, the flow of your day, or whatever in a very positive way. Then you will receive even more things to be reflect on and be thankful for. Enjoy the blessings 🙂


God and Negativity

July 1, 2014

Is there anything you can’t do? You don’t have to answer this question because I already know the answer. I believe you know my answer as well.

I don’t have a problem admitting that there are many things I can’t do. The problem is when I transfer this mindset to God’s ability. Due to the fact that I am incapable with many things, I still sometimes keep my mind in the mentality of limitation, forgetting that our God has NO LIMITS!!

I was reminded again the other day…in God’s eyes there is no such thing as lack. Limitation and lack are only illusions we place in our own minds. Negative outcomes are caused because instead of focusing on God’s provision, we focus on the negative ideas of our own minds.

The good news is we have full control of this. I challenge myself and you my reader to focus on what God can do. Instead of setting limits, focusing on lack, and dwelling on negative possibilities, let us seek God, summon His unlimited power, and dwell on the fact that He is readily willing to provide abundantly more than we seek or ask. The possibilities are unlimited! Enjoy the blessings 🙂