4 Simple Ways to Fix the “What’s Wrong With Me” Mentality

March 2, 2015

what's wrong with me

What’s wrong with me? It’s a question that is asked all too often, especially when things aren’t going the way you want them to go. Perhaps you’ve gone through some bad relationships (or you haven’t had any). Maybe your health is failing you or you are having difficulty losing weight. Maybe you are working yourself into the ground and your bank account is shrinking instead of growing.

Any time things aren’t working, it’s easy to question yourself. However, I am here to tell you there is nothing wrong with you. In fact, there are so many things right with you. It’s a matter of learning from any mistakes you make, and focusing on your best qualities and allowing them to shine through.

If you are looking for ways to fix what you believe is wrong with you, I share several in this article How to Fix What’s Wrong With You. These guidelines have helped me end my pity parties and focus my mind on things that will empower me instead of bring me down. I know they can work for you too. Enjoy the blessings 🙂


What’s Right With You?

December 15, 2014

What’s wrong with me? Have you ever asked yourself that question? If you are like almost all human beings, you have. Unfortunately, many people ask the question all too often. When we are struggling to find the desired partner,lose weight, break a habit, keep a job, or whatever, we tend to focus on what is wrong with us.

The problem is that as we keep our focus on what is wrong with us, the Law of Attraction says we ultimately cause more of it to appear in our lives. How do you turn this around? Spend time as often as possible thinking about what is right with you. No one is perfect. Yet even if you have many negative qualities (all of us have at least some) there is at least something that you are good at and some positive quality you can share with the world. Everyone also has at least something they can be thankful for. Even if things in your life aren’t going well, there is at least something you can thank God for, even if it’s simply the ability to breathe and drink clean water.

The bottom line is that, according the same law mentioned above, we receive in life what we focus on. If we focus on what is right and good about ourselves and our lives, we will see more of it. Ultimately, our positive qualities grow even stronger, and we are able to make more of a difference in the world.

I strongly suggest you change your focus to what is right with you. What do you have to offer the world? What are your most proud of about yourself? What do you have to be thankful for? The more you focus on that, the happier you will be. And it’s amazing how those negative qualities tend to naturally disappear! If you look closely enough, there is a lot that’s right with you. Focus on that “rightness” and goodness, and it will be a greater part of your life. Enjoy the blessings 🙂


Trust In The Silver Lining

March 24, 2013

A friend of mine posted this on their Facebook page the other day. I felt the strong need to share. If you think your day is not going well, this will help you think differently…

Me: God, can I ask You a question?
God: Sure
Me: Promise You won’t get mad
God: I promise
Me: Why did You let so much stuff happen to me today?
God: What do u mean?
Me: Well, I woke up late
God: Yes
Me: My car took forever to start
God: Okay
Me: at lunch they made my sandwich wrong & I had to wait
God: Huummm
Me: On the way home, my phone went DEAD, just as I picked up a call
God: All right

Me: And on top of it all off, when I got home ~I just want to soak my feet in my new foot massager & relax. BUT it wouldn’t work!!! Nothing went right today! Why did You do that?
God: Let me see, the death angel was at your bed this morning & I had to send one
of My Angels to battle him for your life. I let you sleep through that

Me (humbled): OH

GOD: I didn’t let your car start because there was a drunk driver on your route that would have hit you if you were on the road.

Me: (ashamed)

God: The first person who made your sandwich today was sick & I didn’t want you to catch what they have, I knew you couldn’t afford to miss work.

Me (embarrassed):Okay

God: Your phone went dead bcuz the person that was calling was going to give false witness about what you said on that call, I didn’t even let you talk to them so you would be covered.

Me (softly): I see God

God: Oh and that foot massager, it had a shortage that was going to throw out all of the power in your house tonight. I didn’t think you wanted to be in the dark.

Me: I’m Sorry God

God: Don’t be sorry, just learn to Trust Me…. in All things , the Good & the bad.

Me: I will trust You.

God: And don’t doubt that My plan for your day is Always Better than your plan.

Me: I won’t God. And let me just tell you God, Thank You for Everything today.

God: You’re welcome child. It was just another day being your God and I Love looking after My Children…

This is not a conversation I actually had. However, in many ways, I have already had it numerous times. Not everything goes our way all the time. If you’re like me, you may sometimes complain about it and wonder why God has abandoned you or let negative things happen. I challenge you that, whenever you feel that way, think of this conversation and remember that God has you covered in every way : )


Wonderful Creations

December 28, 2011

Please allow me to take you back to art class in school. Remember those first grade paintings you did? Or maybe the middle school wood project you created (for me it was a napkin holder. Fancy, eh?). Regardless, think of how you felt after you completed it. It was your proud creation, and you couldn’t wait to take it home and show it off to the people closest to you. Sometimes we colored outside the lines, or they may have had some minor defects. In any case we were still very proud of our creation.

I am sometimes reminded of an important fact, especially when I am feeling a bit down on myself. That fact is that God feels the same way about us. We may not always believe it, but God is eternally proud of the wonderful creations He has created in you and me. We too have our blemishes (that we’ve created, not Him), but our Creator still sees us as wonderful. We are the work of His hands, and His hands can create anything beyond the most wonderful art project or portrait you can imagine

Someone once told me that God doesn’t create junk. It’s true! No matter how you may be feeling at the present moment, be sure to know how much your Creator cherishes you. Know also that He has great things in store for you, as long as you can believe it. He loves you more than you can ever imagine, and only wants the best for you.

 For me, when I carry this confidence, I know I can succeed in any endeavor. The same is true for you. Have confidence in the fact that you are a wonderful creation. Be thankful for it, and share that joy with those around you. Blessings will abound. Enjoy them!


Everlasting Faith

September 21, 2011

Is your faith lacking these days? If things are difficult and you are facing many obstacles, it is often easy to lose faith.

There are times in my life where my faith is not as strong as it could be. When this happens it is alarming to me because there are many verses in the Bible that stress the importance of faith. According to your faith it will be done for you. Anything is possible to him who has faith. Without faith who can expect to receive anything from God? Those are just a few of them. These verses are great when our faith is high. With great faith we can experience miracles in our life. However, what if we lack that miracle working faith?

I read a very re-assuring Bible verse the other day. It is from 2 Timothy 2:13. It says, “if we remain faithless, He remains faithful, for He cannot deny Himself”. This verse tells me several things. First of all, God expects that there will be times in our life where negative circumstances cause us to lose faith. He understands. Also, the last part of that verse reminds me that He has a plan for our lives. He has a will that He will not allow to be denied. Even though our faith may be low, He will still remain with us and will never turn His back on us.

This idea reminds me of a young child learning to ride a bicycle. At first, the child does not have the faith to ride by himself. What a good father or mother would then do is guide them along. Have the child do the work of pushing the pedals and balancing the bike while they assist by holding on to the bike. After all, they understand the child’s fear, and they wouldn’t want them to fall because they were not ready to ride on their own. However, if the child keeps working at it, they eventually develop the confidence and faith to ride without the guiding hand of their parent. Their faith has increased to where they know they can complete the task.

I believe this same scenario is true in our daily adult lives. As long as we make the effort and persist, God will lovingly guide us. Eventually, we will get to the point where our faith grows, and we can complete those tasks that we originally didn’t believe we could. As we continually test our faith for greater things, we will be blessed more and more. We will see greater success and enjoy a more joyful, rewarding life.

It is important to have faith if we want greatness in our lives. However, when it is difficult to believe, know that God is still there with us helping us get to where we need to be. There aren’t many things more assuring than that.

Have an excellent day : )


Powerful Assurance

September 10, 2011

There are few things more awesome and peaceful then a beautiful sunrise. Besides the beautiful sight we see, it often brings a faithful optimism about what the coming day may bring.

 The great thing about this is that we know without a doubt that the sun will rise each day. There are some days where we don’t see the sunrise. That’s because there are days where the clouds and rain cover it. However, even if there are several stormy days in a row, we are assured that we will see another beautiful sunrise soon.

We need to have the same assurance that we will experience beautiful blessings and success in our daily lives as well. What is it you want to achieve? What type of impacts do you want to make? Who is the wonderful person you want to be? The goal is to know, as sure as the sun rises every day, that you can realize your dreams. Pray regularly. Develop the necessary faith by seeing success in your mind and doing what you are inspired to do. Yes, there are days when clouds of doubt rain on your thoughts of hope. However, with the same assurance that the sun will soon rise again, believe that your dreams will be realized, and success will be yours.

God’s promises never fail. Just as He promises a new day every 24 hours, He promises that He will be with us always. We have no need to fear. Instead, believe wholeheartedly that He will work with us to bring us a life filled with sunshine. Enjoy the beautiful day : )