How To Be In Demand

October 10, 2011

Are you ready to re-live an elementary school moment? For some of you this might be a pleasant memory, for others it may not. It’s about choosing sides. In my day, whether it was kickball, football, or any team sport, there were two captains who chose teams. It was an honor to be chosen first. It felt good to be wanted. Not that I would know, because I would usually be chosen later, almost at the end. That wasn’t such a good feeling as it hurt to know that I wasn’t wanted or needed.

This does not change in the adult world. We feel great when we are in-demand and people want us and our contributions, while we feel hurt, discouraged, and un-wanted when people are not calling on us. The big question is then, is there a way we can control this? If so, what can we do so we are the ones people want to be with, people want to hire, people want to assist them?

The answer to the above question is yes. I’ve read this information in several books and articles lately, and it has become very obvious to me. The key to being a “in-demand” person is to do this…know what people want and show them how to get it. It’s as simple as that. So simple that I will say it again…know what people want and either get them there or show them the way to succeed.

It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to determine how true this is. Think about it in your own life. If someone can bring you closer to achieving your goals and help your dreams come true, aren’t you attracted to that person? Wouldn’t you want to spend as much time as possible with that person? I see it in many areas of my life. I wanted to feel loved and be happy. I was lucky enough to have parents that were good at that, so I loved to spend time with them. I still do today.

I would like to remind you that you could easily be an in-demand person. You can be someone that many people want to spend time with. Also, if you follow the simple guideline of knowing what people want and showing them how to get it, the level of success you can achieve is without limit. For example, let’s say you are seeking the right job. On your next interview focus less on your achievements, and discuss more how you can help the company reach their goals. Know what those goals are and tell your prospective employers what you can do to help them get there. You will have a major advantage over the other interviewers. You will never be short of friends or signifcant others if you can be a person that can help them realize their life goals.

Sometimes it’s hard to know what people need. What then?You don’t have to do a whole lot. Anyone likes to smile or laugh right? Even a few words to put a smile on someone’s face can do wonders. Don’t you like to be with people who can do that for you? As you get to know people better, then you can better figure out other things that will benefit them and help them there.

This information may seem very simple and easy. Yet it is often un-followed. I can vouch because it has taken me several reminders over a long period of time to help me realize its importance. It is very easy to get caught up in our own lives and think about how things will affect us. As a result, we don’t always think about the needs of others. Since many don’t often take this time, you are at an extreme advantage if you can take the time to help others get to where they want to be. So be the first person picked for the team, job, party, or anything in life. It’s a wonderful feeling you can experience continually. Not only will you be on the team, but you will be a winner as well. Enjoy the blessings : )


Take Action Now!

October 4, 2011

Are you often guilty of the p-word? You know, procrastination? I would love to tell you that I don’t procrastinate, but lying in a blog is not right, is it?

The key to beating the procrastination habit is to do things right away. There’s no way around it. However, people have often asked, “what exactly do I have to do?” I found a great answer to that question in the book, “The Science of Getting Rich” by Wallace Wattles. His advice is to form a clear mental picture of what we need to accomplish, and do all we can possibly do each day, doing each separate thing in an efficient manner. He stresses that we should not try to do too much. Once again, he says to do all we can to get closer to the goal, as long as we are giving a full effort and doing things right. He says that, if we can look back at the end of each day and know that we did all we could possibly do, we can call it a success. The more successful days you have, the faster your goal will be reached. This is true, not only for riches, but for relationships, health, career, and every other area of our lives.

I believe if we do two main things, we can be successful in any area of our life. One is to have faith that God will help us reach our goals, as long as it is His will. If it’s not, he’ll lead us someplace even better. The other thing is to do our part. We do that by taking the action mentioned above.

If we have faith and do our part to get to where we want to be (remember, faith without works is dead), nothing can stop us. The key is just to act, and act now. Don’t wait for the perfect time and perfect circumstances. Ecclesiastes 11:4 says, Whoever watches the wind will not plant; whoever looks at the clouds will not reap. What this tells me is that, if we wait for the perfect time to something it will never get done. In most cases, there is never the perfect time, except for the present moment.

Do you notice how, the more you delay, the more time goes by without something being done, the less likely you are to act, and the opportunity is often lost. The opposite is true when we do act. It becomes easier and easier to do things, as that becomes habit. Also, you will see success as you get closer to your goal’s accomplishment. And as you get closer to the goal, you are inspired by your success to act and get there faster.

I strongly recommend you follow this advice. It is not my advice as I have learned it from several great authors and speakers. However, I will say that when I follow this advice, I see a much greater rate of success in my life, and my goals are accomplished sooner than later. The same is true for you. Don’t be afraid to act. Do all you can today (no less and no more) to bring yourself closer to your goals and dreams. Rely on God’s help and do you part. As a result, you will be blessed abundantly.